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    What is your view point knowing nothing of their past or current situations? Can you relate? Any advice you would give to them?

    Person 2:
    Degrading me to a cheap $10 is one of the most degrading things ever. You came to get off. I hate myself for ever thinking you love me. You dont love anyone but yourself. Thanks for confirming thats all i ing am to you

    Person 1:
    That's not true I called u didn't answer u must not want to talk. I'm working would u like me to call u on break. Sometimes I wish u heard your self and the meanest u say then I'm glad you don't cause it's pretty had got upset cause I called your friend a other than that it was decent what's really your deal

    Person 2:
    I had a problem before you showed up. I told you im not a piece of ass and you had your way with me anyways. Then you talk instead of being nice. Is it really that ing hard to just be ing nice to me? You know im sensitive and still youre cruel as .

    Person 1:
    I was nice when was I mean? I never talk to u? She text me? So I reacted why YOU mad? I still haven't been mean

    Person 2:
    You just dont see it.

    Person 1:
    You just can't answer the question and I don't read minds. So yeah I don't see it.
    I think you really need to sit down and decide if we should have this baby because this is becoming ridiculous on both of our parts neither of us are happy it's more work than it is anything else I really think about it I don't want it to be all work there's like no joy there's very little to work with and I don't like that do you like that. Now disregard everything I said and just pay attention to the very last sentence and then go back and read from the top but that whole paragraph is about that question. I feel bad just having sex with you. Like if there's no sex and it's all work like what is there left. Question do you like what we're becoming? all this resentment you have. you told me to do my part I'm over here busting my ass trying to go to school so I can get an even better job like yeah that's going to require more time a lot more time than what I've been putting are you really up for that you really want what I'm trying to get because if you can't hang now I don't see how you can hang later. I feel like u can't even stand to be around me for 30 minutes. You got me thinking if I should even leave the program. I don't even know what to talk to you about in my daily life. You not giving me some time is not working for me it's cut down to less than an hour a day u literally fell asleep on the phone with me after 5 minutes I know ur tired but damn I don't even know what to say. You haven't responded to any of my text.

    Person 2:
    What do you want me to say? I have so much to say but i know I wont be able to finish before im done. You've made your point. Loud and clear. Im trying to figure out what to do from here.

    Person 1:
    That's enough what u just said I just wanted to hear something. I just want you to tell me if u like what we're becoming all work and not even wanting to talk or be around each other it's effecting us both

    Person 2:
    I refuse to answer such a question. I will tell you this.... This baby being born is going to happen whether or not we are together. If you dont want this baby unless we are together then Ill respect your choice. I cant change your mind about anything so im not even going to put the effort towards it.

    No one is responsible for my happiness/unhappiness but me just as i am not responsible for anyone else's. We both need to refocus and figure out what is important and what is not important to each of us and for the two of us together.

    At first you fought hard against "us" now you fight hard against me. But in all actuality that was my misperception of reality because I chose to ignore the signs that for you it was never about me or an us it has always been about you. What you went through. What hurt and pain and isolation you suffered. Your accomplishments. What I caused you to go through and feel. What youre doing. What you plan to do. What you want. What you need. What you think. What you feel. Hearing what you want to hear. Only your answer being the right answer. Your way or nothing. Using my hurt feelings against me. Your expectations of praise for everything you do yet no courtesy to doing anything you want or expect for anyone but yourself.

    Person 1:
    Dog all that sound like is a blame game the first part makes complete sense I'm all for what you said in the very beginning but the last parts all bull.
    I don't know about you but I feel refocused I feel like I'm constantly working on myself I made appointments I'm writing s*** down I got a busy schedule I see my kids exactly when I can I make every minute available that I can I'm literally doing everything in my power I don't lay around I don't sit there and wonder I do it and I've been doing it and I'm good at it I don't need your praise I praise myself this whole time you just think I'm shooting my own horn but in reality this is me and I'm starting to think you really don't like me.

    Person 2:
    Thats exactly what that last paragraph said.

    Person 1:
    Still not understanding sooo
    My way or nothing?
    I go out my way daily
    I'm in a program still
    I don't even think u like who I REALLY am
    This is me

    Person 2:
    This is not me. I swore i wasnt gonna change myself for you and yet thats all i do just to be told how im not good enough and how I lack in so much.

    Person 1:
    I disagree

    Person 2:
    You like me then you change me and dont like me. Weve been here before.

    Person 1:
    I'm giving as close to 100percent in everything and it's still not enough.

    Person 2:
    Just stop already. Youre so focused on what youre going to say that you once again arent listening to .

    Person 1:
    I don't like how your depressed everyday or how everyday is a bad day or how u never get to do any thing hell me either? I work and study and that's life that's real life it's not casinos and hotels and friends it's called growing up I'm ready to grow up clean up after myself and teach my kids how to do the same that's what I want thale basics work educate and clean.
    That's because your a broken record but I'll stop but I've been backing off tring to make you feel important is hard as hell but hey you got your bestie to save the day Let me back off some more

    Person 2:
    I ask you to stop and youve taken it to another extreme. Insult me, my friend, then decide to back off. All I asked was for you to stop not take it to another level again

    Person 1:
    Truth hurts baby love. So what are we going to do? I hear the blame game but what are we going to do? Getting Ready for a First Date

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    Who are these people? Are they dating? Which one is you? Frankly these two should just end it rather than get into these knockdown drag out texting wars.

    Do yourself a favor whether you are 1 or 2 and end it, and delete and block them from all your social media and messaging apps.

    Find someone you want a relationship with, not this nonsense text sparring partner. Both sides of this hostile text exchange need to simply End, Delete, Block and be done with this reality show game.

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    Originally Posted by Chickasaw
    What is your view point knowing nothing of their past or current situations? Can you relate? Any advice you would give to them?
    I can relate from when I was in high school. Some of my relationship arguments were like this.

    This is two children trying to grow up. They haven't learned to respect each other and may never learn to do so. They may not be interested in mutual respect. They seem to enjoy playing off the other's emotions more.

    In some ways, they are used to being the center of their respective universes and are still preoccupied with themselves and what they want.

    My advice is, abandon this nonsense and really grow up. Not to be rude, but it's kid stuff. Be done. Move on. There's A LOT more to life.

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    There are kids and a pregnancy involved. If they both have limited time to talk I can see how it comes down to texting. It's not a good way to discuss serious issues though. Both of them need to sit down and lay aside the anger. Without more context, you're just going to get a lot of comments about how you shouldn't be sorting these types of issues over text.

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