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    Why wont he leave me alone!

    My ex decided to break up with me and said he would never speak to me again and didnt want me to contact him ever again. After 5 years, and too many ups and downs, I was actually relieved to have things end. Well I havent been contacting him, but I get an email or text from at least every other day.

    Why wont he leave me alone? Especially after he told me to leave him alone. I refuse to get into a fight over email so I just ignore. But, I am trying to move on and this doesnt help.

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    Probably the role reversal action. He had the power by dumping you, you did what you had to and went to NC battle stations. He got lonely, tried to contact you, surprised him that you didn't want him anymore. The "power", if you will, is in your hands. You have the option of ending this with a better relationship or to heal. Good for you, I hope you heal faster.

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    What does he say in the e-mails?

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    Well...probably things were said and done...some that he didnt really mean to, break up is a hurtful thing and many dirty things are happening in the background.
    Maybe hs is missing you, maybe it is just hard for him also and he wants to contact you, what is the nature of these messages?
    If you really want to heal, try to ignore these messages, reply nicely to him and ask him not to send you any messages anymore and from this point really try to ignore these messages and i would go as far as saying do not read them at all since they will set you back in your healing process by confussing you even more.

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    It just makes me sad to know that someone I love can be so nasty and that he has stooped so low

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    I am not really responding. I try to ignore him. He wants me to engage in email fighting, and I refuse.

    Basically in the emails, he is asking me a question about something or just calling me names...

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    well then just ignore, dont even read the emails.

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    Wow. I wish I handled my break up the same way you did! kudos!

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    ImGrowing, our relationship has been such a rollercoaster ride and he has put me thru so much throughout the years that I think I am just numb to all his drama

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    I just dont understand why he feels the need to contact me for no reason. He told me not to contact him and that he never wants to speak to me again. Why is acting like he has taken crazy pills?

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