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    i want to lay down and die...

    im in so much pain. i cant even being to explain it. after putting my walls down after so long... after finally believing in true love again... he just throws it away like it was nothing and i am no one. how do u go from being in love and talking marriage to nothing...we were going to get married... and i cant stop crying. i want to cut my wrists or something.. i cant do anything i just want to believe this is a lie or a nightmare im gonna wake up from... what do i do ...i wanna rip out my heart so i cant feel it anymore...
    i cant move on i cant think of him with someone else
    i dont want someone else.

    see my last form..

    he said he didnt lie and it was true. he wont believe me.
    he said when i hurt him he just considered me gone.
    he wont meet with my unlce i knew he wouldnt
    we all think he is scared of him.. .

    he didnt have a reason to be they were just going to talk


    i want to die....

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    Im so sorry. None of this is your fault. He knows damn well you did nothing wrong. Sounds like he was ready to check out of the relationship and this was an excuse. HE has split up with you over NOTHING at all.

    Would you really want to be with him after all this? Learning how easily he can switch from love to nothing?

    Please dont do anything like 'cut your wrists' Hes not worth that. Can you ring up friends/family? Spend some time with them? YOu shouldnt be alone right now if your feeling that bad. Im so sorry for you. But each day will get easier.

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    I think you have a right to know what it is he thinks you did.

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    i do too...

    thank you for the response... i dont feel so alone anymore. im talking to my aunt and uncle and my uncle is furious...

    he sent me a couple of angry texts

    saying i hurt him.. i keep trying to get him to tell me how what i did..

    he is treating me like a im this lying cheating...person

    i told him one day he will he was wrong and then it will be too late

    its too late now i wouldnt want him anyway after what he put me thru

    the only thing hurts is that i love him so much and i know he loved me too
    and its gone and ill never find that again
    nobody could make me feel the way he does...

    i cant breathe from crying so much and my face is really red... my head is starting to hurt.. i just want to go back in time and never gone to that damn wedding... i hate ben now i hate everyone and everything im so mad

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    ps i told him if he wanted an out of the relationship he could have just said so he keeps insisting thats not the case and goes back to whole thing i did... or didnt do actually

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    Im not suprised your hurting. It must have been such a surprise. Its either he wanted out, and this is an excuse, or hes too angry to think straight and is trusting someone over you. which is NOT ok.

    Its ok to cry, and grieve, its all fresh and new and the pain is very raw. You loved him, and hes shown himself to be someone you didnt realise he could be.

    I think when he calms down, he might speak to you. DN's right, you deserve to know what you supposedly did and who told him.

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    I would text him and say this: "unless you tell me what it is that I am supposed to have done, I will not be contacting you again nor will I respond to anything else from you. I accept your decision to break up even though I have no clue what you are alleging."

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    Quote Originally Posted by LOLA MD [Register to see the link]
    ps i told him if he wanted an out of the relationship he could have just said so he keeps insisting thats not the case and goes back to whole thing i did... or didnt do actually
    Sounds like he's guilty of something, and he's spinning it around to you.

    Just a guess...

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    it was such a surprise.. out of no where... im so sad. i would like to believe that he is believes someones else lies rather to think he did something and turned it around on me...all this pain for his mistakes.... im so lost i dont know what to do ... we were so happy... and ...

    out of anger i texted him things like

    i loved u so much and we were so happy and u threw it all away for someones lies
    and then later

    i said things like

    that person who lied to is laughing at you right now etc and go and be with them if u believe them over me go <removed> them and i wish u the best

    even tho its likely it was one of his guys who lied..... he said i made a fool out of him.. and he will just not listen to reason

    does my word mean nothing

    i have NEVER felt so helpless in my life before... i would NEVER cheat i NEVER cheated i know how much it hurts... how can he just..

    god...
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    He is being unreasonable right now. If he had any compassion at all he would at least tell you what he'd hurt and from who. Even if he wanted to break up, if he loved you, he'd give you the REAL reason, he hasnt even given you the chance to meet him face to face and defend yourself, you've been found guilty without a trial, on the basis of a rumour. Im not suprised your upset.

    The best thing you can do now is literally ignore him. I like DN's idea.

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