so.. she broke my heart a while back and we stayed friends. it's been hard on me because we still talk all the time. she doesn't live in my area, but is here visiting for the weekend and we were supposed to hang out tomorrow. we haven't seen eachother face to face since we were kids. so.. i just kept getting nervous and overthinking the whole thing. will i feel any different about her when i see her? will i feel worse afterwards? i didn't know what to think, so i came on here looking for advice. everyone said no contact is the best policy, and their explanations made sense at the time.. but now i'm honestly not so sure. i told her 2 days ago that i couldn't see her on saturday and that i needed some space, but now i'm kinda regretting it. i do still think i need space (ie: not talkingn to her as frequently), but i don't know if not seeing her on saturday was the right call to make for my situation.
every situation is different. she didn't mean to break my heart, she just didn't think it was going to work out and i disagreed. i wasn't looking to punish her by not talking to her, i just wanted to make things easier on myself. but now i feel weird about all this. i honestly don't know if i've done the right thing. i'm sure a lot of you will say NC is still the best way to go, but are there no exceptions? can we not just talk about things, try to make sense of it and remain friends? she has been a good friend to me, all things considered, and i don't want to throw that away.
i just don't know what to do here. i've been sitting here for 10 or 15 minutes with this txt typed up:
are you busy? i'd like to talk for a bit if you can call. i don't know if i did the right thing. just trying to make things easier on myself but i feel weird about this.
should i send it? or maybe just show up to the place we were supposed to meet tomorrow? she will still be there with her brother.
i'm really confused. any advice is appreciated.