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    How do you break up with someone who is so dependent on you, their only other option is homelessness

    How do you break up with someone when they have no job and no where else to go (I mean literally, no friends, no family, nothing)? How do you break up with someone when it could mean that they end up on the street?

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    I was in this situation once and in order to end the relationship in good conscience I gifted them enough cash to get on their feet.

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    Offering them a time frame to come up with money, a living situation, and what not before making them leave. i.e. "I think it's best that we part ways because this is not working for either of us. However, I know that your situation is difficult, and I want you to take a few months to come up with money and find a living arrangement before moving out"

    Of course not that direct--but you get my drift.

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    How long has this person been unemployed? Has he or she tried to get a job?

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    He has floated in and out of jobs since he moved to this state (jobs like cart pusher, vacuum sales, ect.) three years ago but nothing lasted for more than a few months. In the 10 months I've been dating him he has had 1 interview with a temp agency. So even though giving him a few months to get money or a place to stay together is good advice, I feel like I've been waiting for him to do just that for 10 months.

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    What were they doing before you were dating them?

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    It's been 10 months and only one interview. Has he applied to a lot of jobs or just this one?

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    Before we were dating he was doing the same thing he is now..."looking for work," playing video games and smoking pot

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    He tells me he has applied everywhere.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Opticon1 [Register to see the link]
    Before we were dating he was doing the same thing he is now..."looking for work," playing video games and smoking pot
    Where was he living at that time?

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