Here's the situation:
I have feelings for this girl, we've become very close friends over the passed 9 months or so. Back in december, I told her that I had feelings for her and she told me she wasnt ready to be in a relationship, she was being sincere and not just giving me the "speech". We stopped talking for a couple of months, and then started hanging out again, and over the passed 5 months, we've gotten very close, but just as friends.
I didnt want them to, but my feelings for her have come back. I try my best to hide them because I dont want to ruin such a good friendship. But deep down, I am almost positive that she knows how I feel.
Now, my problem is this: I want to be in a relationship with her, but I think she has serious commitment issues, not just with guys, but with ppl in general. I think that she is afraid of getting close to ppl, and she is afraid to fully trust ppl. The reason for this, and this is just my theory, is because her parents went through a bad divorce, her mom, sister, and brother all left her, and just recently she got kicked out of her home by her dad. So its like the only people who were supposed to love her, abandoned her. So I believe this is the cause of her commitment/abandonment/trust issues.
I need help! How do I get this girl to open up to me???? I want her to trust me, to feel like she can tell me anything. She has this emotional wall up, always, and i want to bring that wall down. But its so hard. I really care about her, but its hard to get her to open up.
We've gotten really close, close to the point where she trusts me for the most part and really enjoys my company and Id consider her as a close friend, but she STILL has that emotional wall up. HOW CAN I GET HER TO OPEN UP TO ME???
Ive invested a lot of time, almost 9 months, just being there for her, as a friend, trying to get close to her, but still, im not as close as I would like to be. Ultimately, I want to be in a relationship with her.
I cant describe how FRUSTRATING this whole situation can be at times.
PLEASE HELP. Any advice for dealing with people to overcome their commitment/trust issues would be MUCH APPRECIATED. Thank you!