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Thread: What does it mean when an ex contacts you out of the blue?

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    Originally Posted by ElleB
    Haha, "ugh, you again" ... bout right!

    People think of and use others as safety nets and it's so not cool. I'm really trying not to do that now because of how it feels.

    Exes can be such eejuts can't they?

    What time was the text sent..? Might he have been drunk? I honestly think if they want reconciliation they oughtta put more effort in .... Other than that it's like, a fly buzzing around, annoying.
    Haha! Time to get the swatter out!

    I think a lot of the time, even if they want reconcilliation, they won't come right out and say it.

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    So what is the most dignified action? Should I be a b*tch and text back "just got dumped, huh?"

    Or should I just ignore it? Part of me is screaming to reply with something provoking to let him know just how mad I was/am.

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    I personally wouldn't respond though the temptation might be too much. I just figure if they have something really important to say they will try and say it again... But heyho, might be wrong!
    Do you want this person back in your life in any way shape or form?

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    Depends what you want. Do you want him back? Do you want to be friends or have any sort of communiation with him?

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    Originally Posted by theshoefairy
    Depends what you want. Do you want him back? Do you want to be friends or have any sort of communiation with him?
    I don't know what I want. I never expected to hear from him again, and have tried very hard to put him in my past. Now that I have received this stupid text from him, I am so confused. It has brought all the old feelings back to the surface and I don't have a clear head at the moment. I feel like if I reply (in any manner, whether it be polite or cruel), it will just fuel his ego, and maybe that is all he is looking for? I just don't know...

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    If you reply, you enter "the dance". The dance is him knowing you will be there whenever he is single again.

    I don't like when people don't make contact for long periods of time and then contact me. I figure if they really cared, the contact would not have ended, even if just LC.

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    Originally Posted by Misskitty16
    If you reply, you enter "the dance". The dance is him knowing you will be there whenever he is single again.

    I don't like when people don't make contact for long periods of time and then contact me. I figure if they really cared, the contact would not have ended, even if just LC.
    Yeahhh I agree with this. I wouldn't reply back.. When you don't say anything, it still says something...

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    Too late. I couldn't control myself and sent back a sarcastic and b*tchy text. I know I should have ignored, and I don't expect a reply back, but I'm not going to just sit here and be like 'oh well'....

    He acted like a sh*t and I let him know that in a sarcastic way, so hopefully that will prevent him from further contact...whereas if I hadn't replied, it may have led to further contact on his part. Or perhaps I have entered the "dance". I just want him to leave me alone. This is hurtful.

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    In my experience, it's been because they've just been dumped and they for some reason think talking to me a bit and getting me revved up will save their ego. It's happened over and over and over again. They call up, talking sweet to me, talk about their lives and what's been going on, start verbalizing 'what ifs' for if we got back together, and just when I think something just might start up again...BAM! They're gone and not long later, they're 'in lurve' with some new little hottie.

    Seriously, I know I'm associated with a lot of good times in a guy's life, and I make them feel good about themselves, which is why they would come back after a hard time. Lately, I've not been so soft toward the guys I date, and it stopped happening. I'm actually really grateful, because that's just a really harsh way to be used. It's the equivalent of the hump and dump.

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    Originally Posted by Traveler27
    Too late. I couldn't control myself and sent back a sarcastic and b*tchy text. I know I should have ignored, and I don't expect a reply back, but I'm not going to just sit here and be like 'oh well'....

    He acted like a sh*t and I let him know that in a sarcastic way, so hopefully that will prevent him from further contact...whereas if I hadn't replied, it may have led to further contact on his part. Or perhaps I have entered the "dance". I just want him to leave me alone. This is hurtful.
    Sometimes our intentions are well, I dont know him personally, seems like he was just trying to check up on you. I dunno

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