Telling my boyfriend my "number"

[Juxtapoz]

It's a pointless conversation to have. Just because a girl's got a big number doesn't mean she doesn't value sex. Some of you may think that because of bad experiences with women, but please, don't generalize.

And...why's it not a big deal when a guy has had a lot of partners? Did I miss that thread?

[Gullible]

Any woman can get laid anytime she wants. There is nothing for her to brag about because all she had to do was let everyone know they could have it, and somebody took it. She didn't even have to be mentally or physically aroused to do it. She didn't even have to move.

That is one reason why men brag about being able to sleep with a lot of women - because for men, it actually requires effort and skill. It's not something anyone can do.

A key that can open any lock is called a Master key. A lock that can be opened by any key is called a worthless lock.

But did any of us say that it's good for men to sleep around? I don't see any posts on this thread saying that, other than my above answer to your question. That still doesn't mean I condone it.

To me a more important question is "How many partners did you TURN DOWN?" If you slept with everybody you could, then your number is "all of them" and the details aren't important.

Hopefully you didn't even sleep with everyone you WANTED to. Otherwise it would seem like your version of sex is no different from an animal's.

Anyway I'm not trying to criticize anyone, but people have all kinds of different opinions about sex. If your partner feels the same as you do, then it doesn't matter what other people think.

[Doc Blaze]

i never ask, and never will...it seems ptless, why dwell in the past on something you cant change or do anything about it..even if she told me it wouldnt chang my mind about her now...but i really dont care to know either.

[digger11]

""I'm not ashamed of my past, I don't regret sleeping with all those people." If you have no regrets then you would still do everything the same and you haven't learned anything. I don't keep fond memories of exes, because all those memories resulted in a breakup, and it's unhealthy to fool youself into thinking that a bad thing was good for you."

I wasn't in relationships with all of those people... I don't have regrets because I try not to have them. When I first started having sex it was a few people here nd there then a lot, then i just slowed way down. I think it was my lifestyle,points of view, etc.

What I have learned is that I am no longer interested in flings, where I once wanted that NSA type of relationship very much so.

"Hopefully you didn't even sleep with everyone you WANTED to. Otherwise it would seem like your version of sex is no different from an animal's. "

Of course I slept with everyone I wanted to!! I don't sleep with people I do not want to sleep with... I have turned down a lot of men and pursued a lot...

and I hate that key analogy. You don't have a master key if you are trying every lock, of course you're bound to get lucky.

[kombatarts99]

Men ask because they want a woman who is selective. My first gf had 75 when I had 2. I learned ALOT from her. with her having so much experience she tought me alot. I would never be with someone like that now. I want someone who chooses me because of me not because i'm the next in line. when your 22 it doesnt matter when your 32 it matters.

[itsallgrand]

If his actions havent changed then there is not need to be worried.

I happen to ask every girl that I date for a significant period what their number is, I do not judge them for their number but it helps me understand their journey and can be a good indicator of their level of sexual experience.

Well said. That's my approach too. As a woman, I don't think there is anything wrong with sharing that info once you are getting along and it seems to be going somewhere. It helps give more info about where the person is coming from.

Though I would have to say that I do judge. Not in a way that would ever put someone down. But I'd take it into account when seeing if things could go the long term. There are certain journeys that just aren't in key with me!

[Juxtapoz]

Any woman can get laid anytime she wants. There is nothing for her to brag about because all she had to do was let everyone know they could have it, and somebody took it. She didn't even have to be mentally or physically aroused to do it. She didn't even have to move.

yeah, that sounds really hot. i'd love for my partners to compare me to having sex with a couch, as if i didn't even want it.

women have to try at it too. some are more selective than others. it might be easier for them to get it than men, but that doesn't make it easy.

and all of your relationships in life will result in some kind of breakup, whether it's her choice, your choice or death do us part. why not take the experiences and learn from them rather than saying nothing good came out of it?

[Gullible]

Lol ok, staying married til you die is the same as breaking up. My bad.

My point wasn't that all women are like couches. Just some of them. But, to be fair, most couches have only had a few dozen people on them, and usually only 2 or 3 at a time.

And no, women don't have to try. Most women do try, and that is good. But even the ones who don't try can still have sex. Emily * * * * inson didn't leave her house for years at a time, but she still had sex. Good luck to a man who tries to do that. First of all he would have to get a job, or most women wouldn't sleep with him anyway.

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[Gullible]

Sorry about my language, I'm glad the forum edited it for me. I was, of course, referring to the great poet Emily Penisinson.

[dragon lady]

I recently watched Clerks and since then I've decided that it's better not to ask. I've yet to exchange numbers with my partner and I think both of us want it to stay that way. Knowing will only create uncomfortable feelings, at least for me. After we had sex the first time I joked about it being my first time (it was not even close). He went pale it hasn't been discussed since.