I need some advice about a sticky situation involving my girlfriend snooping through my emails.* I had suspected for awhile that she had been looking at my phone and going through my emails on my phone if I wasnít around, and this morning I saw her doing it, though she didnít see me.* I havenít confronted her yet about it, but Iím very hurt and itís hard for me to even look at her and speak to her normally now.
My gf has always been a bit insecureóshe says it stems from having been cheated on in her two prior relationships.* But part of the reason I think that she decided to snoop through my phone is because I have a close female friend (an ex-coworker) who Iíve known for a long time and who I truly consider one of my closest friends.* I talk to my friend on an almost daily basis about a variety of issues because we worked together for a long time (and still work in the same industry) and share the same circle of mutual friends.* I also talk about my girlfriend and how the relationship is going with my friend, get advice from her if there are problems, etc.* My friend has a boyfriend and also shares things about her relationship with me.* There has never been any sexual tension between me and my friend, and nothing has ever happened between us even though we have been both single and in relationships during the time weíve known each other.
My gf has told me that she has a problem with my friend and how close we are.* She doesnít like that we talk every day, and though we havenít discussed it, I know she wouldnít like that I talk about our relationship with my friend.* But I donít see my relationship with my friend as inappropriate in any way.* I am fairly certain that my gfís snooping comes from wanting to know what my friend and I say to each other.* Itís gotten to the point where Iíve started deleting emails because I donít feel theyíre for my gfís eyes and I know sheís snooping around trying to find something.
Should I confront my girlfriend about this?* Or just change the password on my email and hope she gets the message when she canít get in anymore?* I know that if I confront her, itís going to turn into a big discussion about how she doesnít like my relationship with my friend and she feels that we talk too much.