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    Why do guys say they want to be just friends...after a breakup

    Okay i'm just curious because i've asked some people and their responses were basically they want to keep that contact for "sex" so they can hook up every now and then. My sitiuation: an ex said he "just wants to be friends for right now." If those statements are half true i dont know how that applies to me because we never had sex...so im just curious why do you all think guys OR girls say they just want to be friends after they just broke up with you?


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    Sometimes people like having their exes around as it makes the break up somewhat easier, as if they havent lost them completely, if that makes sense?

    Or they want to keep you on the back burner so they can reconcile in future if they want to.

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    its just funny to me because they'll say they want to be friends but then they stop contacting you

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    maybe after they say it they figure it isnt the most clever idea, men can be weird things to understand lol

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    Yea they say the opposite of what they really mean half the time lol

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    Sometimes it's to soften the blow and so they don't feel as guilty for breaking up with you. It's always nicer to say "Let's be friends".

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lol:) [Register to see the link]
    Okay i'm just curious because i've asked some people and their responses were basically they want to keep that contact for "sex" so they can hook up every now and then. My sitiuation: an ex said he "just wants to be friends for right now." If those statements are half true i dont know how that applies to me because we never had sex...so im just curious why do you all think guys OR girls say they just want to be friends after they just broke up with you?
    Most cases it is for sex, but again, that's not everybody. In your case considering that you haven't had sex before, maybe he really wants to be friends. Why the breakup?

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    They want you as a back-up plan.

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    There are a fair few reasons.
    Guilt would be a number one for me.
    I wouldn't want them hurting but in the end....
    Regardless if they are your friend or not they are going to hurt once they see you smiling and laughing with another partner.

    It doesn't soften the blow of the break up but delays the impact of feeling the hurt when they start a new relationship.

    Another reason could be, they are wanting you there because they know that you are into them still but they have found greener pastures to play in but just in case they find the pasture has poison ivy they can come back to you.

    The only other reason could be that they really just want to be friends with you.

    But even then, they should know that would be inconsiderate as they WILL be with someone else.

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    He said it wasnt a good time because he just lost someone close and that he wasnt go to be there( in my hometown he was going start living back in his hometown but still going to the same school)

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