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    Curious about condom vs. no condom

    This question is directed to people who have had enough experience having sex with (more than a couple of) people both with a condom and without using a condom. If you don't feel comfortable posting the answer here you can PM me.

    I'm curious about any emotional differences for people you've had sex with with a condo and for those without. My guess would be that there are likely more emotions with the personn you have sex with without a condom. Maybe not even emotions for the other person, but your own. Is it more intense? People you have sex with without a condom might be your long term partners, so I would understand the idea of more emotions in sex like that, though I'm more curious if you've had more of an emotional reaction/intensity with non-long term partners without a condom.

    Did wearing the condom ever act as a barrier to your emotions? In any way?

    Does it feel the same with both condom/no condom? Other than the other person's personality and your liking to them being a factor....do you think wearing the condom has something to do with it?

    Sorry if this is confusing Sometimes I think the juices mixed in during sex, and the unbarriered touch, can make sex more of an emotional investment than with a condom on.

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    Sex is always supose to be something very special that is shared between you and your SO. whether they use a condom or not. Condoms are a form of birthcontrol. so if she isn't ready to be having kids, then she is being smart. doesn't mean she doesn't feel connected with you!

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    Obviously you both feel closer physically without the condom...But from my expirences the only time I dont use a condom is when I'm with someone I've slept with multiple times who in the beginning I used a condom with. So obviously over time you develop more feelings for the person spend more time with them "Fall for them". So yea when I dont wear a condom which is only happens with someone special its a special expirence.

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    Condoms do not affect emotional feelings for my partners.

    I would never trust a man who said he didn't want to use a condom because he wanted to be closer to me. In fact, I'd dump him.

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    I only had unprotected sex with my SO so i dont know if my answer is relevant. Becuase i had so many emotions invested already, sex without a condom was so beautiful. Having bare contact felt so intimate. On the other hand, i dont think i could feel the same with someone i wasnt in a relationship with. One big reason because i would be too worried about STDs to enjoy it. There is definitely a different feeling when you have sex without a condom but its all in where your mind is. I love my man regardless though and right now we're not trying to conceive so we use condoms. I feel close to him with or without.

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    Has anyone had several sexual partners (not relationships) and not used a condom?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cognitive_Canine [Register to see the link]
    I would never trust a man who said he didn't want to use a condom because he wanted to be closer to me. In fact, I'd dump him.
    How come? Interested to know

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    I take birth control extremely serious and would be undeniably turned off by a man who tried to talk me out of protection.

    My boyfriend has never even hinted at not doubling up on protection. He takes it as seriously as I do, if not more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by thathoopla [Register to see the link]
    Has anyone had several sexual partners (not relationships) and not used a condom?
    I have, back in my self-destructive days. I don't recall feeling particularly close to any of them. Personally, I think it's more about the feelings you develop for your SO prior to having condom-less sex. I can say that I do feel more connected when I have sex with my fiancee without a condom than I do when I have sex with her with a condom. There may be a biological basis for this.

    Scott

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    I had a 7 year fwb relationship with a classmate from age 11 through to high school graduation. We never used condoms. I realize it's necessary, but it's still weird and irritating to me.

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