**Should I wait?!

Im 17 and a senior in high school. My boyfriend is in college, which leaves us in a long distance relationship. We been going out for 16 months now and a baby has been questioned from both of us, but the real question is are we ready?! Gimme feedback on what you think

Were not in the same state..

No. Wait til you live in the same state, at least.

Is your question about whether you are ready for a baby?

No, you are absolutely not ready! Wait until you graduate high school, go to college, get yourself a good solid job, THEN think about having a baby. Right now, you're still technically a child. You have SO much living to do. These next 5 years of your life are so critical for your development into adulthood. There are so many experiences you would miss out on because you chose not to wait.

PLEASE wait. For your future child's happiness (trust me, you won't be able to provide for him/her now the way you'd be able to 5 years from now), wait.

Well, I would suggest that you graduate high school first and then think about the kid...are you planning to go to college?

I think it would be difficult honestly. He's away at college...it'll be long distance! Who is going to help parent your child? Wouldn't you want him there with you to help you through every step?

I'd say stick it out with him a bit longer and enjoy your time together. I wouldn't go for a baby until you're both with stable jobs and living in the same house. It'll be a better environment for the child.

I don't understand this question. If you asking if you should have a baby then definitley no. See the responses above for some of the thousand of reasons why.

No, you should not have a baby under these circumstances - that would not be wise at all.

No one is ever really "ready" for a child, but I think the best way to measure that, is by stability. As in, finances, your relationship with your SO. and of course your career and the ability of your SO to provide, thats what it all comes down to.

So you both being in school answers that question, your far from ready.

NO, NO, NO, NO. Neither of you are in the place to have a baby. I'm really surprised that you can't see that for yourself.

Can you give up being able to go on dates with your boyfriend? Can you handle staying home taking care of your kid, when most of your friends are out having fun? Where will you get the money to take care of this child?

No one is ever really "ready" for a child, but I think the best way to measure that, is by stability. As in, finances, your relationship with your SO. and of course your career and the ability of your SO to provide, thats what it all comes down to.

 

So you both being in school answers that question, your far from ready.

It's not just that. At 17 you are in no way mature enough to handle the responsibility of a child. You are a child yourself.

OP, please wait. Babies are not cute and fun all the time. There's a lot of crying, sleepless nights, and so many expenses.

NO, NO, NO, NO. Neither of you are in the place to have a baby. I'm really surprised that you can't see that for yourself.

I blame "16 and Pregnant"... they glamorize it sooo much.

Im registered to a community college in fall. Yea but I LOVE HIM. And he wants too...

I blame "16 and Pregnant"... they glamorize it sooo much.

Even with the glamorization most of the couples split up, there is a lot of crying, fighting, and unhappiness.

You are in NO way ready to raise a child.

Im registered to a community college in fall. Yea but I LOVE HIM. And he wants too...

less than 1.5% of teen mothers get their college degree. You will not get yours if you have a child before you graduate.

Im registered to a community college in fall. Yea but I LOVE HIM. And he wants too...

Tell him NO. Think for a minute here, think hard.

Im registered to a community college in fall. Yea but I LOVE HIM. And he wants too...

love has nothing to do with it. When you have a baby, your love will be divided between him and the baby.

Im registered to a community college in fall. Yea but I LOVE HIM. And he wants too...

So what? I love my boyfriend too. That doesn't mean I'm ready for a baby. Wait until you two are LIVING TOGETHER. IN THE SAME STATE.

This just has "bad idea" written all over it.

I understand unplanned pregnancies happen and should be handled accordingly, but planning to bring a child into this world at SEVENTEEN blows my mind.

love has nothing to do with it. When you have a baby, your love will be divided between him and the baby.

Yep. Love has nothing to do with it.

Love has nothing to do with marriage either. You have to do a lot of things before you are ready for either marriage or children. A lot.

K ill think about it!

Can you support this child on your own financially? Can you support it emotionally and mentally? I mean can you support it all on your OWN. NO help from mom and dad, no help from anyone? Do you have medical insurance? Can you afford medication? Can you afford dental care? Can you afford education for your child? Can you afford diapers and formula and clothes without asking for a hand out? Can you stay up all night for nights on end with a screaming and or sick baby and still attend to your responsibilities the next day and every day? Can you take not spending time with your friends anymore because you have a child now and NO ONE to help you?

And all that is just the beginning dear.

honey love at 16 is love at 16.

Trust me, the next few years will be SO much fun for you childfree. You will be SO glad you waited.

childfree...I love that word.

Seriously OP, just use the time to go to school, get educated more, get a job that you enjoy and get settled...THEN think about kids. What is the rush? You still have plenty of years ahead of you.