Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 6 1234 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 60

Thread: Girls: Is a 27 year old virgin male who has never kissed a girl attractive to you?

  1. #1
    LightbulbSun

    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Location
    USA
    Age
    34
    Posts
    3,914
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    1

    Girls: Is a 27 year old virgin male who has never kissed a girl attractive to you?

    Simple enough question. If you were dating someone and you found out he had never been with someone else, would you drop him?

  2. #2
    HouseKitten

    Join Date
    Jan 2009
    Location
    England
    Age
    30
    Posts
    2,498
    Gender
    Female
    No. I'm still young enough to be meeting guys who haven't had girlfriends. Although it would make me wonder why exactly it had never happened for him, if I still liked him a lot for his looks and his personality, I'd still date him.

    However - a lack of previous experience would suggest to me that he lacked confidence, lacked an ability to go after what he wanted, and had a generally more introverted personality. There's nothing wrong with being that guy, but for me personally, I know that I like confident men.

    But if this guy seemed to be confident and calm and happy, and just hadn't had it happen for him, I would be prepared to give him a chance. So long as it wasn't a front for a towering stack of nervous insecurity.

  3. #3
    DrKitten
    Platinum Member DrKitten's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Californiyay
    Age
    28
    Posts
    1,286
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    10
    Based on that alone, no I wouldn't drop him. I prefer someone with some experience, but if I liked him enough I certainly wouldn't hold that against him.

  4. #4
    bingfei
    Member bingfei's Avatar
    Join Date
    Feb 2006
    Location
    CHINA
    Age
    31
    Posts
    21
    Gender
    Male
    i think its no matter

  5. #5
    LightbulbSun

    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Location
    USA
    Age
    34
    Posts
    3,914
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    1
    Say that the reason for this lack of experience was because he's shy around attractive women. Would that be a turnoff?

  6. #6
    Cognitive_Canine
    Platinum Member Cognitive_Canine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Location
    Somewhere over the rainbow
    Posts
    17,569
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    23
    Quote Originally Posted by LightbulbSun [Register to see the link]
    Say that the reason for this lack of experience was because he's shy around attractive women. Would that be a turnoff?
    I would be apathetic as to what his experience was. It might be kind of nice actually, as long as he wasn't insecure about me having some experience.

    As for the shyness, I would help him get over it. If his shyness affected my social life (he didn't want to go out and was upset when I did with my friends), then that would be a turnoff.

  7. #7
    jonny15
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Feb 2009
    Location
    Memphis, TN.
    Age
    33
    Posts
    3,789
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    27
    Quote Originally Posted by HouseKitten [Register to see the link]
    But if this guy seemed to be confident and calm and happy, and just hadn't had it happen for him, I would be prepared to give him a chance. So long as it wasn't a front for a towering stack of nervous insecurity.
    Unless a 27 year old virgin is waiting for the right one, or is in love with Jebus, I really think that he's gonna be a nervous ball of insecurity that isn't high on confidence.

    And he sure isn't gonna be calm.

  8. #8
    quirky
    Platinum Member quirky's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2008
    Location
    UK
    Posts
    4,978
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    86
    I wouldn't do it because I have had a lot of experience in LTRs, casual flings, one night stands, FWB. Most likely he wouldn't be able to "manage" me in the slightest. Someone with little experience needs a more shy and "nice" girl.

  9. #9
    thathoopla
    Silver Member
    Join Date
    May 2009
    Age
    29
    Posts
    605
    Gender
    Female
    Hypothetically,

    If he is not socially inept, yes that's attractive. It would feel really special if we did get together.

  10. #10
    LightbulbSun

    Join Date
    Aug 2007
    Location
    USA
    Age
    34
    Posts
    3,914
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    1
    Quirky, what exactly do you mean by 'handle you'?

    I've seen this posted as a reason before, and I just don't understand it. There are millions of jerks and a**holes who have had tons of girlfriends and sexual partners, it doesn't make them any more better at handling a relationship.

    I'm family oriented, I love kids, and even though I'm shy, I open up once you get to know me. I have friends who I've been friends with since middle school and high school, and I still get in touch with them. People generally seem to like me.

    My problem is that whenever a girl shows interest in me, I tend to 'run away.' And forget making the first move...I get nervous enough when she makes the first move! I realize that this is a problem that I need to solve, if I ever want to be in a relationship with a girl, but if I got to know her, I'm pretty sure that I'd stop being scared. Therefore, I could "handle" a relationship.

    Does it really make me 'damaged' or 'broken' because I haven't had a first love yet?

  11.  

Page 1 of 6 1234 ... LastLast
Top Threads
Is she interested?
So i met my good friends step sister about a week ago and we have hung out about 4 times. I was sleeping over my friends house and she was watching
I like a guy at work but i'm not allowed to date him
alrighty so i started a new job a few weeks ago and i think that one of our security guards is super super cute. but since i'm a cashier, according
Can I Convince Him Long Distance Is Okay?
So there's a guy I met. He asked me on a date. We've been on three so far. Between the first and the second he told me that he's moving after
Significance of holding hands with interlocked fingers
Holding hands with fingers interlocked or intertwined - is it a strong indicator of romantic intentions?
What does it mean if my friend asks me to go over to his apartment?
One of my guy friends who I have known for a couple of years recently asked me to go over to his apartment after a night out when we were quite
She flirts with me,but she loves a guy who doesnt care. What should I do?
She recently found out about my feelings for her (because she told me she liked this other guy, and I started ignoring her after that), and started
Am I overreacting?
I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months and it has been wonderful, however I have recently started to get feelings of jealousy after his frequent

Expert Advice
Featured Threads
Completely Confused? What does this mean?
Hi All- I was dating a guy for almost a year. We had a pretty great relationship- Things got serious. We told each other we loved each other. Even
Boyfriend told me he couldn't afford holiday, next day books one to Thailand
Basically my boyfriend of 6 months is $40k in debt (I'm debt-free). We had talked about going to Vietnam and he said he needed 6 months to save up
Not a regular here, I have a few questions...
I'll try to make this brief. Been in a relationship (23F) with a man (35) for 5 years. Typical in the beginning, though I always wondered how he
Weed or Me
Hi, I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months - he is 31 and I am 24. He has recently started smoking weed every night and I don't really
Is He Hiding from Me?
Hi All, Need some advice from those that are familiar with social media apps such as Instagram.. I'v been friends with this guy for about a
Red flag in friendship
I've been through a terrible first break up and was in a lot of pain. I was physically and mentally sick due to the stress of the break up but I'm
I broke hard NC after 7 months (B I G M I S T A K E)
No surprise, I'm absolutely devastated. She pretty much blew me off like I was a piece of trash. At first I was happy because she actually responded
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •