i.need.help Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 by skinny i don't mean anorexic, but overall petite figure. but this seems to limit my chances. i don't exactly know why i feel this way. of course looks and personality is also important. grrr this is like a huge catch 22, i just want to get a gf so we can make each other happy but if she's not what i want physically i will always want more. sigh... Link to comment
Mizz J Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Nothing wrong with having a preference. And it doesn't seem all that unusual. Hang in there...you'll be OK. Link to comment
FrankenBeans Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 so what's the problem here? I like skinny, petite girls, so i only date them. It's my personal preference and if someone doesn't like it, I don't care. I don't know what you're getting at here or what the problem is... Link to comment
Theblueman123 Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Lol I don't see a problem, I absolutely LOVE the petite body type, so it's not a bad thing at all. It's just a preferance, and it's your right to have it. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Anytime you have a preference, you exclude people from being potential dates/partners. If you're looking to be in a relationship, that's the goal -- eliminate all but one, right? We each get to pick our preferences. As long as you are civil, polite, and kind to those who do not fit your preferences, it's nobody's business what you've decided is important to you. Link to comment
Mr.Mister Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 I've always been extremely attracted to petite women. My ex-gf was skinny when we met, but she gained weight during our 3-year relationship. At that point, you need to decide if your are in love with the girl or the body. I feel love is stronger than lust. So, if you think about it, you won't desire more, because you'll have HER and that's what will matter. I'm not saying start dating every women you see, but don't limit yourself to a very particular size or shape. Many years ago I decided that I only wanted to date blond women. But, after meeting some wonderful women that did not have blond hair, I realized it didn't really matter. I love women for what is on the inside and not what's on the outside. Hopefully you'll realize this too. Link to comment
hexaemeron Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 I only date boys. I could date women (if I were single) to improve my chances of being with someone, but I wouldn't be very happy unless it was someone I preferred and was attracted to. Stick to Kate Moss. I'll stick to Tom Brady. Everyone wins. Link to comment
hahaha1021 Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 Well in cali there are alot of skinny girls. You wouldnt have any problem finding one you liked. Link to comment
Jd1983 Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 There's nothing wrong with that, it's just your preference. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 OP: are you skinny too? Link to comment
Kaytie Posted February 11, 2010 Share Posted February 11, 2010 You like what you like. I like women who look like they've hit puberty and have some lean muscle mass - skinny is a huge turn off for me. I can't change that preference any more than you can change yours. Link to comment
i.need.help Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 OP: are you skinny too? thanks for all the input. i'm 6 ft tall and 165 lb so i don't think u can call that skinny. i have a lean athletic build. when summer comes i plan on working out more. can't do this in the winter cuz i snowboard A LOT and i'm always sore after. right now i'm recovering from a small concussion i got two days ago LOL and yes i was wearing a helmet. Link to comment
capbit Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 You say that like it's a bad thing. Go have some fun out there man. Link to comment
randomgirl59 Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 I dont really understand the point of this thread...it almost seems like you're looking to cause some drama what with all the fat vs skinny and looks vs personality discussions that are constantly popping up on ENA. I dunno..seems kinda weird. We cant really tell you why you prefer one body type over the other Everyone has preferences. I prefer skinny guys, but being curvy myself this limits my chances as I find that many guys would prefer to date a women smaller than them. In all honesty I should change my preference as it would make things easier, but I like what I like so I gotta deal with it. Of course if you like someone and they are less than your ideal then definitely give it a chance, something great might come out of it. However if you're dead set on a petite woman then keep looking and you'll probably find one sooner or later. Link to comment
Singler Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 im not skinny i am average with a HUGE chest and men tell me I am their first chub.....so f them and on to the next, it all comes down to what your attracted to....don't make it an issue and it wont be one! I prefer shorter men with muscle and fat..... those also tend to be the ones with the low self esteem...go figure... it's all preference....ive had my sexy muscle man tall ex husband and on..... b ut I prefer the shorter guys...they are just as attractive and more my type.... Link to comment
i.need.help Posted February 12, 2010 Author Share Posted February 12, 2010 the fat vs skinny and looks vs personality discussions that are constantly popping up on ENA. im not trying to cause drama, actually i have never seen a thread like this other than mine. Link to comment
MissAnnie Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 I am a skinny girl, and I often feel like I get over looked by guys who hit on my curvier friends. So...I just wanted to point out that it could be an advantage to you because I think most guys like curvy/athletic figures so you'll have less competition! Link to comment
Mr.Mister Posted February 12, 2010 Share Posted February 12, 2010 Well in cali there are alot of skinny girls. You wouldnt have any problem finding one you liked. I live in the midwest and I've only met one girl that was really petite and skinny, and she lived an hour away. Apparently I just live in the wrong area. But, I'm 26 now and have noticed that, even with my lowered standards, most of the women I meet are either taken, promiscuous, or not looking for something long term. It's really hard to find the right person, and I think it's just getting more difficult as I get older. I'm not willing to date single moms either, and it seems like every girl around here is getting knocked up. If I could just get up and move, I would get out of here as soon as possible! Link to comment
dr_styles Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 It's only a problem if "I'm only attracted to skinny girls" + "I can't get a date" + "I only attract fat girls". Link to comment
absinthe Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 There are tons of women who are petite in both stature and figure. I'm surprised you're concerned about this. Perhaps you can give us an example of how skinny you prefer. As possible examples, a body like Natalie Portman who is thin but not skinny, as skinny as Kiera Knightly (forget her height just look at her body shape) or someone else? Link to comment
Mr.Mister Posted February 13, 2010 Share Posted February 13, 2010 Perhaps you can give us an example of how skinny you prefer. ... I don't know about the OP, but, for me, I don't really go for Kiera Knightly, as she has a muscular physique. When I think petite, I think of someone like Vanessa Lengies. I love short, skinny women, and it doesn't get much better than her. But, women like that don't exist around here. Even so, I am content because I am more concerned with values than body type. Hopefully the OP can come up with some other examples. Link to comment
MD Geist Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 There is nothing wrong with that. I like curvy girls its finding one who wants to date me or who doesn't have kids is the problem. Link to comment
Crush85 Posted February 14, 2010 Share Posted February 14, 2010 I know where the OP is coming from. For instance, I'm physically attracted to a certain female body type as well. Sure, I could downgrade and increase my chances with someone that I find less physically attractive, but I know I wouldn't be happy. Link to comment
basketoffrie Posted September 13, 2020 Share Posted September 13, 2020 by skinny i don't mean anorexic, but overall petite figure. but this seems to limit my chances. i don't exactly know why i feel this way. of course looks and personality is also important. grrr this is like a huge catch 22, i just want to get a gf so we can make each other happy but if she's not what i want physically i will always want more. sigh... Everyone missed the point of op's post. Super skinny women are less than 2% of the westernized population. Meaning op's fetish attraction just eliminated 98% of all women op will be attracted to. It also applies to most women on the planet. BMI for healthy women less than 19 is RARE. BMI for healthy women under 17% is almost impossible to find. Most men in my opinion prefer BMI for a woman between 19-25% while most women prefer their own BMI 22-35%. It's more common to find women with BMI's over 40 than a BMI under 17 for a woman. Op is frustrated being attracted to very thin women making it almost impossible to find let alone be competing for her attention with so many other men trying to win over someone very Rare to find. It also creates a situation where number of men seeking her attention is far more than she can handle. Yes so it's terrible for a man to be attracted to super thin women because odds are very much against him finding her and having her like him back. Also most super thin women do not want to stay super thin and welcome weight gains as their metabolism slows down, she is thrilled to put on some extra weight and op is fearful he will become less attractive. It's not good to be attracted to something not available for most men. That's what op is saying in my opinion. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted September 13, 2020 Share Posted September 13, 2020 Everyone missed the point of op's post. Super skinny women are less than 2% of the westernized population. Meaning op's fetish attraction just eliminated 98% of all women op will be attracted to. It also applies to most women on the planet. BMI for healthy women less than 19 is RARE. BMI for healthy women under 17% is almost impossible to find. Most men in my opinion prefer BMI for a woman between 19-25% while most women prefer their own BMI 22-35%. It's more common to find women with BMI's over 40 than a BMI under 17 for a woman. Op is frustrated being attracted to very thin women making it almost impossible to find let alone be competing for her attention with so many other men trying to win over someone very Rare to find. It also creates a situation where number of men seeking her attention is far more than she can handle. Yes so it's terrible for a man to be attracted to super thin women because odds are very much against him finding her and having her like him back. Also most super thin women do not want to stay super thin and welcome weight gains as their metabolism slows down, she is thrilled to put on some extra weight and op is fearful he will become less attractive. It's not good to be attracted to something not available for most men. That's what op is saying in my opinion. Thread is 10 years old. I'm curious to know why you revived it lol. Link to comment
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