Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 7 years and I am going crazy trying to understand why he hasn't asked me to marry him yet. We are both 24 years old and have been living together for a little over a year. I am worried that I am going to pressure him into marrying me because I nag him all the time, but it is so hard not too. He is really my soul-mate and I am really excited to get married and have a family with him....I LITERALLY can't wait!!!! He says he wants to and is going to marry me, but I dont understand why he doesn't just ask me then.
He tells me is is gonna ask me soon, but then never does (he has been saying it for at least 2 years). His older brother just recently got engaged in October to his gf of three years, which has made this whole situation even more difficult. He had mentioned to me that he was going to ask me last summer and was kicking himself in the ass because now his brother was getting engaged. I asked him "why didnt you?" All he could say was "I dont know." Then, he said he was gonna wait to ask me to marry him until after their wedding. I was upset because I dont see why we need to wait for that. I have been waiting years for him to be ready for marriage and now that he is ready, I still have to wait?????
Whatever happened to asking someone to marrying you when you realize they are the one???
We have talked about this many times and now he says he is going to ask me this summer instead and not wait until their wedding, but why tell me that? Why not ask me now if you know you want to marry me? Why wait? Better yet, why would you want to wait to ask if you know its something we both want????
I dont know what to do or what to say to him. I dont want to pressure him into asking me and I am afraid that is what I am doing. I just dont get why he is waiting and what exactly he is waiting for. I just cant seem to stop thinking about this whole thing, especially when his brother's fiancÚ wont shut up about her wedding planning. Her whole wedding was planned in 2 months!!!
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.