Ask For Advice
Results 1 to 6 of 6

Thread: Guy friend trying to "protect" me??

  1. #1
    cbzfmoc
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Location
    East Coast
    Age
    26
    Posts
    228
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    1

    Guy friend trying to "protect" me??

    So I became really good friends with a guy I have known for years, during the last half a year or so. We *may* both be attracted to each other (I can only speak for myself, but I get signals from him sometimes). Thing is, he does this weird thing where he seems to be trying to show me that can protect me. When we go somewhere, for example the movies, he usually says something like "I will be your buffer" and tries to place himself where he thinks I am most likely to be "attacked." Uhhh so I am never particularly worried about being attacked. I usually kinda laugh it off and say something like, "Yeaaah I am sure those nerdy looking guys are going to attack me." I don't know, it doesn't really bother me (I find it kind of amusingly actually), I just think it's kind of weird because I definitely don't get this from any of my other guy friends. Anyone have any similar experiences or insight?

  2. #2
    wayoverit
    Silver Member wayoverit's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2008
    Posts
    472
    A guy saying he's "PROTECTING" you is a way of him saying he doesn't have enough courage to say what he's feeling and is expecting you to make it easier for him to find an entry. Next time just grab his hand, smile, and say "I feel safe now."

  3. #3
    ProtestTheHero
    Platinum Member ProtestTheHero's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Location
    Tralfamadore
    Age
    27
    Posts
    2,338
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    33
    He's either got a lame sense of humor and he's just joking around, or he's trying to playfully show you he cares and CAN take care of you in a low risk way. If you like him, respond positively to it. If you don't, tell him he's being cheesy.

    That's a really stupid move on his part if that's how he chooses to express interest, though.

  4. #4
    gsxr104
    Platinum Member gsxr104's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2009
    Location
    Austin,Texas
    Posts
    958
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    4
    Hmmm. I wonder if he'll be able to stay in that groove if you really do need protection. I would hate to think he'd run off or faint.
    Last edited by gsxr104; 01-10-2010 at 03:37 AM.

  5. #5
    cbzfmoc
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    Aug 2009
    Location
    East Coast
    Age
    26
    Posts
    228
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    1
    I like him. But I don't need him to protect me. I am just trying to understand what is going on in his head, and what I should do next, if anything at all.

  6. #6
    zzprometheuszz
    Bronze Member zzprometheuszz's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2009
    Age
    34
    Posts
    292
    Gender
    Male
    Quote Originally Posted by cbzfmoc [Register to see the link]
    I like him. But I don't need him to protect me. I am just trying to understand what is going on in his head, and what I should do next, if anything at all.
    he's not actually trying to "protect" you per se, it's not like you guys live in the jungle or something

    it's just his way of showing his feelings

    he cares about you, that's what's going on in his head

  7.  

Top Threads
Agree or disagree: Nice guys finish last, but DO finish?
I was reading a few articles about this and was curious myself based on people's personal experiences. Yes, I'm the "nice" guy, I treat women the way
Why is she flirting with me if she's got a boyfriend?
There is a girl at school that has been flirting quite a lot lately. She will stare at me until I look at her, and when I look at her she either
I need advice from a GUYS perspective please!
A few weeks back, this guy asked for my number. We began texting regularly and i could quite obviously tell he wanted to talk. We even spoke on the
met a new guy. He's a sweetheart and I pushed him away :/
so backtrack to Jan.. I met up with a guy I had been communicating with online for a couple years. I was in his state this time and he was free
Is it something or an i reading more into it?
So i'm a single mom.. i work with this guy who is 5 years younger than me.. we are so close and very good friends.. but all of a sudden he started
The girl I like is confusing me
Well, I always sucked with dealing with girls and especially recognizing their hints and signals, but I've never been confused as much as now. I
Real man vs. Celebrity crushes
Hi everybody! I am new here. I am a 24 years old girl with anxiety and I am dating a very nice man. We had 3 dates (tomorrow will be the fourth). I

Expert Advice
Featured Threads
He Left My Clothes in His Yard to Pick Up
Here is a follow to my situation: After I spent four days with this guy I met online, I inadvertently left a few clothes at his place. Almost two
Does he really think I'm trolling him/can't trust me or is just an excuse?
Met a guy last summer. I broke it off with him 3 times in 6 dates, over concern about distance, but kept apologizing. The last break off he said he
My 8 year old won't go to sleep or stay asleep 😣😣
Feel like I am losing my mind. My 8 year old just won't go to bed.. or she at least won't stay in bed. She is still up now at 9.45pm (after being
HSP in LDR, about to move to be with him and get married
Im a Highly Sensitive Person. I get very overwhelmed very easily. If i dont sleep well, if theres too much noise, if there are too many
Am I being selfish or unreasonable?
Hi everyone, Sorry for my first post to be one of all doom and gloom, but I'm stuck and don't know what to do. I want to start by saying that I
Stomach flu fears
I have a huge fear of stomach flu, if i am exposed or know someone has had it a have really bad anxiety and stress over it. Yesterday at 11am at my
Boyfriend Likes Questionable Pictures on Instagram– Should I Be Worried?
Long story short, he's been liking some questionable pictures that this other woman (whom he knows irl) posts. In one of the pictures he liked, she's
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •