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    My Girlfriend uses a dildo that's bigger than me...

    Recently discovered that my girlfriend of 7 months uses a dildo that is 8" long, while I am only 6" long. It is, at least, a slightly smaller girth than I am.

    She isn't able to orgasm with only 6" because it doesn't hit her CDS in the back of the vagina. In certain positions I can occasionally hit that spot once or twice...but its hard. She screams with pleasure every time I manage to hit it (rarely).

    She has also never had a "clitoral" orgasm...which could be looked at as a plus...but it seems to evade me as well and I know what I'm doing in the bedroom. I know I can make it happen eventually, but who knows when.

    So, basically, I have never given my girlfriend an orgasm and she has to rely on a larger toy to take care of the job, not to mention she is a very sexual person and past partners have given her orgasms... kind of depressing.

    I'm not one to give up though. I would never expect her to stop using the toy...it would be selfish of me to deny her pleasure. I would like to be able to use the toy on her myself, but I just don't know if I could handle seeing her scream and climax from something bigger than myself.

    What can a guy do...

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    1. either get over it, since clearly she doesn't mind or else she would have dumped you and just stuck with using it, or
    2. break up with her

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    Thats a hard one but i'm sure alot of girls out there use a sex toy bigger then there partner. You can talk to her and ask if shes stil lgets a great feeling of having sex with you most likely she is.

    I dont get how can you get that one spot sometimes ?? If you hit it before a few times wont it be like that all the time when your fulyl hard

    Also dont get to hung up on the sex toys, i mean you cant get jealous over one that viberates, unless you can stick a double AA battery in your you know were.

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    As far as I'm aware, the vast majority of sex toys ARE bigger than the average real life male. It's just a toy - not a replacement. Adds a bit of fun to the bedroom (if you let it). If it concerns you that much, then perhaps she should only use it when she's alone. When she's with you, then tell her "no toys". Will that help?

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    um... she comes by a dildo hitting her cervix? I don't know if that is possible. Your g spot isn't far from the vaginal opening and your clit is on the outside. As far as I know there is no reason having a long penis should make women come more then a short one... has she come with other men? Or is it only when she masturbates that she achieves orgasm?

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    Everyone has particular values and it looks like you're coming up against your own.
    If it bothers you, establish some boundaries with her or leave the relationship.
    It's emotionally difficult, I suppose, but logically, it's very simple.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rosephase [Register to see the link]
    um... she comes by a dildo hitting her cervix? I don't know if that is possible. Your g spot isn't far from the vaginal opening and your clit is on the outside. As far as I know there is no reason having a long penis should make women come more then a short one... has she come with other men? Or is it only when she masturbates that she achieves orgasm?
    isn't it more about the tickness then length ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by vinceval [Register to see the link]
    1. either get over it, since clearly she doesn't mind or else she would have dumped you and just stuck with using it, or
    2. break up with her
    Yea I know my options in reality, just don't want to face them lol.

    I wouldn't break up with her over that, hopefully she would think the same.

    Quote Originally Posted by HEMI_dude [Register to see the link]
    Thats a hard one but i'm sure alot of girls out there use a sex toy bigger then there partner. You can talk to her and ask if shes stil lgets a great feeling of having sex with you most likely she is.
    I'm sure there are plenty of guys in my shoes out there. I know the sex is enjoyable for her, it just isn't amazing. I don't think I could date someone that felt nothing when I had sex with them.

    Quote Originally Posted by HEMI_dude [Register to see the link]
    I dont get how can you get that one spot sometimes ?? If you hit it before a few times wont it be like that all the time when your fulyl hard
    Well, even when erect, you will have varying levels of Erection Quality. Perhaps some guys have constant rock hard erections when they get turned on, but others...like myself... do not. my erection can fluctuate almost an inch in length depending on the EQ level. Usually when I kegel blood into my penis, thereby expanding it to its full potential, she will gasp.

    Not only that, but the area that I am referring to is not always at the same depth...sometimes it is closer, other times it is farther. Depends on where she is in her menstrual cycle as well as how turned on she is.

    and then you have the proper positioning etc..

    Quote Originally Posted by HEMI_dude [Register to see the link]
    Also dont get to hung up on the sex toys, i mean you cant get jealous over one that viberates, unless you can stick a double AA battery in your you know were.
    well I guess that's just the thing with penis insecurity. No other mans penis vibrates (i hope) so I don't really worry if mine does.

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    Don't they have hollow dildos that you can put your penis into to make it longer? That would be so cool, then you could pleasure her yourself and she would feel closer to you in her moments of blissfullness.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rosephase [Register to see the link]
    um... she comes by a dildo hitting her cervix? I don't know if that is possible. Your g spot isn't far from the vaginal opening and your clit is on the outside. As far as I know there is no reason having a long penis should make women come more then a short one... has she come with other men? Or is it only when she masturbates that she achieves orgasm?
    He's speaking of CDS or Cull-De-Sac orgasm. Also known as A-Spot orgasm. Some women have clitoral orgasms.. others have g-spot orgasms.. and some have CDS/a-Spot (some have a mix). While some women might not orgasm from a-spot stimulation, they can go pretty 'wild' from it.

    Have you ever been stimulated very deeply, and gotten very wet? Stimulation of A-spot tends to produce large amounts of lubrication. It's not the cervix that is being hit, its actually above/below and past the cervix (the cervix protrudes slightly into the vagina).

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