Arabella314 Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Lately my boyfriend has to take Viagra and it's still not working. Like five minutes after we start, he'll lose his erection. We always end up giving up. I've never had to deal with this before, so I don't know why it's not working. Any suggestions? Link to comment
knightingale Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Have you considered sex therapy? Link to comment
Samedy Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 I think if Viagra doesn't work, he should probably go to a Doctor. Link to comment
lady00 Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 He should go to a doctor. But given your other thread, I can't say I understand why you want to be with this guy, let alone sleep with him. Link to comment
Arabella314 Posted September 10, 2009 Author Share Posted September 10, 2009 I think I know why he can't get it up. My guess is he drinks too much...I'm not sure though..just a theory I have. As for sex therapy..I can't even get him to go to rehab..sex therapy is not a option with him. Plus that would be weird for me. 20 years old, talking to a therapist about viagra. But we figured it would work so we tried that..it's not and I never had this problem before, so I thought maybe we were doing something wrong. We already went to the doctor. I wasn't there when he first got the viagra, but I took him to the follow up. He also has cirrosis from drinking, but I don't know if that has a relationship to the sex problems. Link to comment
knightingale Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 I already responded in another thread of yours (concerning his moral character--cheating) on how I feel about the relationship as a whole. I will say that if he has a drinking problem and is prone to lying/cheating, his erection--or lack thereof--is the least of your problems at this point. Link to comment
Arabella314 Posted September 10, 2009 Author Share Posted September 10, 2009 I already responded in another thread of yours (concerning his moral character--cheating) on how I feel about the relationship as a whole. I will say that if he has a drinking problem and is prone to lying/cheating, his erection--or lack thereof--is the least of your problems at this point. Thanks. I know this is the least of my problems, but I read another thread and it reminded me of this situation, so thought I'd ask. This isn't something I'd like to tell my friends if you know what I mean. Link to comment
loulee Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 All Viagara does is help dilate the blood vessels, to increase the blood flow to the penis (and everywhere else in fact) so that an erection can be maintained..it does not create an erection OR desire or arousal..Alcohol and drugs often inhibit erections Possibly your boyfriend has more of these in his blood stream than actually oxygenated blood?!? I would also suspect he has high blood pressure due to his cirrosis,,by the way this is a serious problem on its own and it can only get worse..It amazes me that the focus is on fixing his erection...erectile dysfunction is by far one of so many things that are clearly not functioning here....I hope you overcome your low esteem and find happiness with someone who is more likely to grow old with you and respect you as a women..Dont you think YOU deserve better than this.. I hope one day that you do...good luck Link to comment
cantexplain Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 Yes, if he isn't an alcoholic, then I'd say a good doctor has a pretty good chance of directing him to a specialist which may be able to help. If he is an alcoholic, then quitting drinking would be the first plan for ED and probably a bunch of other stuff going on with him and between you two. I believe alcoholism and addiction to be a physical condition which drives behavior. It may have something to do with the cheating. But many alcoholics don't cheat, so I dunno. One thing I do know is that it is hard for relationships to survive one partner's recovery out of addiction. So even if he gets a handle on sobriety, chances are the relationship will still be a challenge. Infidelity is really a problem unto itself. The recidivism for this behavior is enormously high. There is so much water under the bridge. So much future potential for problems .... the ED is only an incidental distraction at this stage. It is a good thing you are not married. Link to comment
bsmorris Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 How much Viagra is he taking? 40 or 80? Some men say they need the 80 pills ($30 each). It takes AT LEAST one hour for it to start working and takes "sexual stimulation" to start an erection. If he drinks heavily before or after taking it he may find himself on his own. The same with fatty meals. If you guys go out for prime rib, loaded baked potato and a bottle of wine and other drinks it is likely the Viagra will not work. Link to comment
Arabella314 Posted September 10, 2009 Author Share Posted September 10, 2009 How much Viagra is he taking? 40 or 80? Some men say they need the 80 pills ($30 each). It takes AT LEAST one hour for it to start working and takes "sexual stimulation" to start an erection. If he drinks heavily before or after taking it he may find himself on his own. The same with fatty meals. If you guys go out for prime rib, loaded baked potato and a bottle of wine and other drinks it is likely the Viagra will not work. The times he tried, he only took 1 pill & he drinks beer all day from the moment he wakes up. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted September 10, 2009 Share Posted September 10, 2009 I think if Viagra doesn't work, he should probably go to a Doctor. ditto that. Even someone who is really nervous, viagra should work. he could have some blockage somewhere. Link to comment
Belgian girl Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 what about giving cialis a try ?? Link to comment
bsmorris Posted September 12, 2009 Share Posted September 12, 2009 what about giving cialis a try ?? There is no difference between the different ED pills. The prices are similar also. I was wrong before when I said the pills sizes were 40 and 80. Viagra comes in two sizes: 50mg and 100mg. I rarely need it but when I think I might I usually take half of a 50mg pill and find it works all night. My doctor tells me most men take a full 100mg but also told me fatty foods and alcohol can reduce the effects to 0. You still need to get horny to get hard--you don't just walk around with a big hardon for hours and hours. Link to comment
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