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    Underage porn...my boyfriend seems to like it.

    Hello all. Let me first preface this post by saying that I do not mind porn and enjoy it myself ocassionally, that I have known my boyfriend watches porn since the beginning of our relationship, and that sometimes we even like watching it together. We've also been together for a little bit over a year and a half now.

    He has a HUGE butt fetish. Show him a picture of a girl in panties and he turns into a hound dog. His favorite type of "porn" to watch (if you can truly even call it that) is of girls dancing around in their panties in front of webcams.

    That alone, I wouldn't mind. What bothers me, though, is that some of the girls in his videos look very young. Probably around fifteen-sixteen. Definetely not legal. He gets many of these videos from sites like Youtube, where they have no age verification to ensure that these girls are over eighteen.

    I've brought this issue up to him before in the past, telling him that I was concerned he was possibly watching underage girls dance around in panties. He claimed to not realize they were that young, and says he is a "bad judge of age". Together, he and I sat down and went through his videos, deleting the ones where the girls looked very young. I also asked him for future reference to get his porn videos from reputable sites where there is age verification of the women featured. He agreed, seeming very ashamed of himself.

    Now, two months later, I notice that once more he has gone to Youtube and downloaded about ten or so videos, of girls dancing around in panties. And once again, they all look extremely young.

    I know that most men get into the "barely legal" look, but I would prefer the girls he's masturbating over to actually BE legal. Knowing that he's watching these fifteen or sixteen year old girls makes me feel sick. They're children.

    Should I bring up the issue to him once again? Or am I making a fuss over nothing? I need some input from others, please. Thanks for any advice.

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    I would have the same reaction as you're having. Discuss it with him again from a legal standpoint (he could possibly get in legal trouble if these were found on his computer)....while that's probably not "likely", it might sink in a little more than the fact that it bothers you.
    I'd be extra concerned since you had the chat about it and he's continued with it anyway. Hiding it and the fact that they're (probably) underage, suggests a bigger problem.
    Let us know what happens.
    Best wishes.

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    i agree that he can get in trouble for having those videos on his computer if the girls are underage. i would discuss the legal ramifications of that with him.

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    Thanks for the replies so far. The thing is, I already have discussed the legal ramifications with him, the first time this happened. I let him know that what he had on his computer can constitute as child pornography and that he could potentially get into trouble with the law for having it.

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    how old is your boyfriend?

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    How old is your boyfriend?

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    My boyfriend is 21, almost 22. The same age as me.

    I've also just found, in his history, a live webcam site where you can go to watch girls strip and such while you talk to them. This is NOT okay. I was always afraid that his like of watching pre-recorded vids of girls dancing around on webcams would eventually translate into him going onto webcam chatting sites with girls. IMO, this is cheating. I am so upset right now. I don't know what to do. =(

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    ok, at 21, these girls on the webcam are only 5-6 years younger than him. which i can understand him watching.

    these sites cost money. how is he paying for membership to watch these girls strip?

    while i'm not against porn at all, i would find it creepy if my bf was watching porn with women under 18. they are not adults.

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    I am shaking right now...IMO, watching girls strip live, on webcam while you watch and talk with them, is definetely a form of cheating...right?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lyrisae [Register to see the link]
    I am shaking right now...IMO, watching girls strip live, on webcam while you watch and talk with them, is definetely a form of cheating...right?
    If you're not okay with it, and he knows this and does it anyway. It's cheating.

    I would consider it over the line too.

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