My husand refuses to look for work. I'm so tired and can't take his excuses anymore, I think he enjoys collecting unemployment and has developed a lifestyle that he doesn't want to change. I own a small business that is very physical and lately I've been picking up more hours to offset my worry that we will run out of money. I'm physically breaking down and mentally I'm just plain scared.
We've talked, argued, whatever and he doesn't want to change. I've tried to explain that women depend upon security, just like he depends upon me to cook, clean and fullfill all the typical gender rolls. I've saved up some money as I knew last October his work was coming to an end which it did this April. He looks at the money as just something he can live on when the unemployment runs out. He keeps telling me he needs time to think about everything and find his way again and swears there is no work. Oh, he's taking one class through our local community college 1 day per week.
He thinks he wants to start doing handyman work with our neighbor who is on the verge of losing his house. When they did the bathroom floor of our house it consisted of the neighbor doing the work and my husband drinking beer.
Each time we discuss the subject he just says he wants a divorce. I keep saying he'll pick a divorce over 8 years together? We did draw up the paperwork a couple of weeks ago and I'm thinking of at least having an attorney review it. I do love him but have zero respect. He keeps telling me not to 'bully' him...really? Advice please!