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Thread: How long into the relationship do you wait to say I LOVE YOU?

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    How long into the relationship do you wait to say I LOVE YOU?

    How long into the relationship do you wait to say I LOVE YOU?

    just curious. i have trouble saying that - and I regret not saying it at times.

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    There is no time limit on these things and it's different for everybody. Some people say it within weeks and others take a whole year or longer. I say the best time to say it is when you genuinely feel it and don't expect it back in return. Don't just say it for the sake of saying it.

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    I never say it first... Must be said to me before I can consider saying it back. That makes for a bit of variety as even then it's no certainty that I'll feel the same way.

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    i suppose its ok to say "I love you" as soon as you genuinely feel that you love the person.. there really is no time limit.

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    About a year or two, some years ago I used to say that even after two dates, no wonder they dumped me, lol...
    Of course if it's real love where you'd be even ready to die for the other person, otherwise it's just plain...

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    He started saying it at 3 months. Took me around 5 months to say it. I'm not the sort of person who uses those 3 words too often, not often at all actually... and sometimes he says that he feels 'insecure' about this. I don't want to promote this sense of insecurity but i want to say it when i truly feel like it and to be honest, having said those 3 words before does not mean that i have to say it every time we see each other. So, say it when you feel like it's coming from your heart. Those 3 words deserve genuine emotions.

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    Yeah, far too often are those 3 words used without their true meaning...

    My best mate always ends his calls to his girlfriend with a quick "I love you", and my ex-g always did the same. I'd always reciprocate because of course I did love her yet it is far more satisfying when its at a good moment, rather than every second or day. And as for the first time, I think a good time is when you geniunely feel it, and you have just had a really nice day out or something.

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    Many people say "I love you" as if they are commenting on the weather. In other words, it is something to say and it is about as deep as discussions about the weather. When it is true love the actions will show the love loud and clear and the other person will feel it without words ever being spoken. Far better to use those three words sparingly than to use them frequently as just something to say. Say it when you really really mean it...when you are out of the honeymooen/infatuation stage of the relationship and into the real love stage.

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    i've been dating my guy for 8 months now and we haven't really exchanged i love you's yet. i'm not really sure if it's because i still don't feel that i truly love him, or if i'm just waiting for him to tell it to me first. i'm not even sure if i'll be able to reciprocate should he finally say those 3 words to me. i stop worrying about it though and i just try to enjoy creating memories and growing in this relationship. like what the other posters said, there is no timeline. there are no hard or fast rules. everything will fall into place at the right time.

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    I've heard that the minimum time is at least 3 months of dating..but then again, each couple is different so I'm not sure if there's a normal set time??

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