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Thread: Men: do you equate sex with love?

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    Quote Originally Posted by weakwatershade [Register to see the link]
    I recently heard a male friend say he doesn't at all equate love with sex. I am guessing he meant that he could enjoy sex with someone he didn't love. It probably didn't mean he would have no problem not having sex with someone he did love. Opinions guys?
    I personally believe that alot of guys out there can enjoy sex with someone they don't love or care about. I believe that most men are carnal - at least to some degree - and since sex is a flesh urge (like hunger), it doesn't take actual love to fufill the need.

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    When I was young I did not, but now as a wiser mature dude I do equate sex with love... That's why I'm abstinent.

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    Nope. Very different things.

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    Well I am female and don't equate sex with love, never have, so some women don't equate the two either...

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    Quote Originally Posted by ghost69 [Register to see the link]
    sex is a physical act for me. when you have a mental connection with someone and communicate well, you can make the physical more satisfying though.
    I would never ever date a guy with this attitude. Because I'd miss out on so much if I do.

    to the OP, I think most men do not equate love with sex. But there are men that need some emotions there to want to have sex, does not have to be full blown love though.

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    Sex without love = lust.
    Sex with love = love and lust.

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    I have to like someone to have sex because I don't want to give someone pleasure that I don't like. It's more about giving than receiving to me. So for me I would say I don't need to be "in love" but I need to like the woman. Many men probably don't feel the same way. The other thing is, it depends on if you use the definition of love according to women or according to men.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Knotty [Register to see the link]
    The other thing is, it depends on if you use the definition of love according to women or according to men.
    Care to elaborate?

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    For me, sex has nothing to do with love, but love makes it better.

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    Men: do you equate sex with love?
    It depends what vantage point you are looking from. If you are in a loving relationship then sex is part of that equation.

    If it is simply you have sex with someone it equals love then I would say absolutely not.

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