IM annoyances

So Myspace Girl and I have been talking for a few weeks, but haven't met up in person yet due to the first weekend I was all sick. And then the next week I was hoping to meet up on Friday, but she hadn't been online since Monday where I mentioned Friday in passing but never settled on it officially, so when she finally did come online on Friday it was too late for that. And now this week might be difficult because I scheduled something with somebody else on Saturday, and that's the only day I think she has off. So I'm hoping to talk to her to reschedule for another day, but knows if she'll be online again in time.

Well I know she's a nurse and busy with her schedule and since we haven't even met yet she doesn't owe it to me to be online all the time and talk to me all the time. But I wouldn't be so annoyed if she didn't keep saying "talk to you tomorrow" or "we will talk about it tomorrow" when she never is online tomorrow, or maybe the day after that or after that

I dunno, maybe I'm overreacting? But it gets kinda annoying after a while. I dunno, would you be annoyed at something like that?

I think it is quite possibly someone screwing with you.

Can you set a date further in advance than a week, to give her more time to reply? Then you can see if she's avoiding meeting or just very busy

how about a phone number?

That would get annoying after a while.

Who brings up hanging out? If its only you and she doesnt give you a solid reply, she is probably not serious about it, of course it could be that she is busy too

Well things like this would suggest that she still wants to meet, this was from last Friday.

[21:04] MyspaceGirl: Where "we" go, if there will be a we, depends on how we interact when we meet, not on here

[21:05] TheBladeRoden: ah, so you'd still like to meet then?

[21:08] MyspaceGirl: yes I would love to

[21:08] TheBladeRoden: cool beans

[21:09] TheBladeRoden: so what days are open?

[21:11] MyspaceGirl: Well, since I work the night shift again next week, not until next saturday

[21:11] MyspaceGirl: and I WILL mark you in my calendar for sure

[21:12] MyspaceGirl: I'd swear to go if I we'rent agnostic

[21:12] MyspaceGirl: god*

[21:12] TheBladeRoden: hmm too bad we couldn't set something up for tonight

[21:14] MyspaceGirl: Yeah, and I apologize again for that, totally my fault

tell her you want to talk on the phone..and do that. if she doesn't want to talk on the phone but yet says she's willing to meet you...drop her

yyou are putting too much emphasis on an IM conversation. This is why I don't have AIM or any IMing thing. People expect you to be on it constantly and if you're not, they draw all sorts of conclusions.

tell her you want to talk on the phone..and do that. if she doesn't want to talk on the phone but yet says she's willing to meet you...drop her

Does this count?

[21:34] TheBladeRoden: perhaps we should trade phone #'s

[21:39] MyspaceGirl: I don't feel comfortable giving mine out right now, just in case you turn out to be a stalker, but if youd like, in fact, to verify that I'm female ;-), I can call you sometime this week.

I end all IM conversations with 'speak later' or something. It's not like it's a contract or something.

Get her number. Or an email. Don't rely on seeing her online. If you want to see her, ask her out properly!

i think you need to call her and set up a date that way.

Well, see if you can set up a meeting the next time you catch her online, and hopefully its well in advance.

i think you need to call her and set up a date that way.

Well the ball's in her court for that one

errrr? why? to me, IMing is just confusing. you said saturday, but you didn't say where, what time, etc..... i would call her, or at the very least email her asking her out on saturday, and suggesting a day/place/time to meet.

Well the ball's in her court for that one

I can buy the whole online stalker shyness thing. Over the years I acquired 2 stalkers (both Russian men, oddly) so that hesitation is understandable...to a point.

errrr? why? to me, IMing is just confusing. you said saturday, but you didn't say where, what time, etc..... i would call her, or at the very least email her asking her out on saturday, and suggesting a day/place/time to meet.

I don't have her phone #

i would email her and suggest the date, and then ask for her phone number as that helps when you are trying to meet up. (for example, you get stuck in traffic and you need to tell her you'll be 15 minutes late, etc....)

I can buy the whole online stalker shyness thing. Over the years I acquired 2 stalkers (both Russian men, oddly) so that hesitation is understandable...to a point.

Right. I don't give my phone number out to anyone online...

i give out my phone number. it's a cell phone. no biggie.

If she won't let you call her, then ask her to call you?

She already said she was okay with that after all

i would email her and suggest the date, and then ask for her phone number as that helps when you are trying to meet up. (for example, you get stuck in traffic and you need to tell her you'll be 15 minutes late, etc....)

Right. I don't give my phone number out to anyone online...

See? There's a bit of a snag regarding trying to get her phone #, especially considering she already resisted once.

i give out my phone number. it's a cell phone. no biggie.

Yeah, me too - never had any problem with it, it's non-geographic, so I can't be identified with it (i.e. as I could by landline). I think if you're going to meet someone, you should give them your mobile number.

See? There's a bit of a snag regarding trying to get her phone #, especially considering she already resisted once.

actually i should've specified--i don't give out my number till we are for sure meeting, and i absolultey won't talk on the phone to a guy that i've been emailing with online. i haaaaate talking on the phone and woudl rather meet in person. should've made thta clear...:splat:

Whenever I encounter resistance in getting a phone number from the 'net, I toss my phone number out and tell them to call me if they're comfortable. That way, it's out there, and I can properly gauge their interest. If they call or e-mail back with their number, I call and keep it going.

If not, well, I know to move on.

I also only give out my cell number. I can get that changed any time I want so it's not a big deal.

Whenever I encounter resistance in getting a phone number from the 'net, I toss my phone number out and tell them to call me if they're comfortable. That way, it's out there, and I can properly gauge their interest. If they call or e-mail back with their number, I call and keep it going.

 

If not, well, I know to move on.

 

I also only give out my cell number. I can get that changed any time I want so it's not a big deal.

yeah that's what I did