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Thread: THE NO CONTACT CHALLENGE, Part 2

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    Originally Posted by FriendnorFoe
    I am taking control, this is my life and I have neglected myself for far too long, I dont need anyone but myself, It is not the situation that harms you, it is your judment about it, take away the thought of injury and the injury is gone, view the last months or years with your ex as though it was all just a very long dream and that you are now just waking up from.
    This is how you should think! Bravo!

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    Day 6 - I woke up feeling good this morning. A new guy (actually 2!) have appeared on the scene and now I have something to take my mind off of it. Although I did have a sex dream last night, it sucked, just as sex with him did. Hahah. This isn't so bad after all.

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    Day 12

    Its a nice Saturday morning, I dreamed about him all night, and I just woke up missing him, I had to run to the computer to stop from calling him and just feeling stupid because I know he won't even answer because he doesn't care about me. I feel like crying right now.
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    Congratulations, John. I am genuinely so pleased for you, you've come through so much. All the best of luck in the future!

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    The temptation to contact her, like the break up never happened, catch up and compliment her on her new look is just immense. But I'm only at Day 8, so I'm not gonna do that. It's not like I've deserved the right to.

    I am however considering blocking her on Bebo so I don't have to go through that pain again. I dunno though, its silly but its a BIG step for me. And if I did, I think I'd have to tell her why I was doing it, I don't want to hurt her at all. She's still very special to me.

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    i have to go NC....i will be starting tomorrow.
    this is going to be very difficult

    right now he is already not on my facebook. i just have to make sure i don't text him, or call him during the week, or go to try to see him. i have to keep my thoughts in my journal or on ENA, not say them to him. if i can do that and he doesn't contact me (he probably will but i am not sure) then maybe it can be done..

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    John - I am SO happy for you! Please keep us posted! You are an amazing person. Your ex is lucky to have you.

    Broken - I hope the weekend was kind to you my friend. I know how tough it is. I'm personally trying to have fun tonight. Going ALL out with friends. Tired of dwelling and mourning over someone who's clearly not missing me and happy with someone else.

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    Originally Posted by FriendnorFoe
    It is not the situation that harms you, it is your judgment about it, take away the thought of injury and the injury is gone, view the last months or years with your ex as though it was all just a very long dream and that you are now just waking up from.
    I like this a lot, it's a new way of thinking about it for me, thanks FriendnorFoe! It's a great way to take control of the situation and empower oneself.

    Day 10 for me. (keep going, keep going, keep going....)

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    Day 15

    Just got back from seeing a movie with a friend, last house on the left, very violent but was pretty good, earlier went out and bought some new clothes, some medium shirts and panths that I can fit easier into, I have dropped about 10 pounds in the last two weeks, but dont worry this isnt from a lack of eating and being depressed in my room all day, I have been on a good regime of diet and excersise and I would highly recommend it to anyone looking for some outlet for your negative emotions, energy, anyways I have been doing an hour of cardio every day, and 30 mins of weight lifting every other day along with a much healthier diet. So I am losing fat, gaining muscle mass, feeling pretty good emotionally and pyschically I must say. Our mental state is critical to overcoming that which we are perceiving as pain. Excercise really helps you focus and puts logic back into the game. Now with that being said something else I found helpful I would like to share with you is give new-age, atmospheric, soundscape or even some electronic, trance music a try, regardless of what kind of genres everyone is into, I am actually more of a classic rock kinda guy, listening to this music has relaxed me significantly, given me a much clearer view on reality and not be polluted by my emotions. I have been working out to this music recently and found it it has done great things for me along with the excercise, now everyone is into diffrent activities and hobbies, but all I am sayin' is give it a try I guaranteed it will help in some way. I just want to point out that this whole post has been about me, and that is who matters right now, the attention has shifted to myself because I am in control and I choose who deserves the majority of my focus. I dont feel the need to mention my ex or what reminds me of my ex or what I think of my ex to all of you because this is no longer important to me.

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    Day 2:

    This is so much harder than I thought. I went through the day without contacting her. Man.. I'm such an idiot for trying to establish contact a few days ago.. doh doh doh. I also haven't contacted my toxic 'best friend' either. He remains blocked on msn. Everyone I have talked to in real life and on this board has said that I need to purge myself of this 'best friend' of mine because he is screwing up my healing process and hes not really a friend at all.

    I have tried to be as cheerful as possible today but it was difficult. Normally on Saturday afternoons I would be hanging out with my ex and our mutual friends. I ended up sleeping the afternoon away to make the time pass faster. I'm very lonely.. luckily I will be going out tomorrow afternoon.

    I had a good talk with my Mom about my feelings today. She says she has noticed a huge change in me since the breakup. She says my overall lifestyle has improved and that I've matured significantly and become a much more responsible person. I was glad to hear it. I hope she was being honest and wasn't just saying stuff to make me feel better.

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