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Thread: Girls keeps saying she doesnt wana lose me but keeps ignoring

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    Girls keeps saying she doesnt wana lose me but keeps ignoring

    I had a complex situation that brought me here. I had a female fried who wanted me to date her. At that time, were not in the same state and she said she doesnt wana do distance. I did one effort and sacrifice and got a job in her city. After i told her about the offer, she got excited and we had intimate conversation over the phone. Its been five months since i moved to her town but she is continuously ignoring my texts and keeps cancelling the hangout. When i asked her whats going on, she said she doesnt know if she is attracted to me and want to decide after we hangout. But she keeps cancelling since past 5 months. She also says that she doesnt wana lose me but as I am being super crazy with my emotions (Just because of her behavior) that is pushing her away. I am too puzzled and confused and dont really know what to do in this situation. I am getting all the signs that she doesnt even wana meet me now.

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    Unless you're already in an established relationship where one person had to move before the other joined in that city, you shouldn't uproot yourself for anyone. For one thing, most new relationships fail. For another thing, even though she seemed excited at first, the thought of you making such a major move is really daunting for her. I'm sure it puts pressure on her to think: Oh my God, he moved all this way for me. What if we date and break up? It's a major thing that he came all this way and then I end up dumping him?

    She's too scared to even begin anything, fearing the end before there's even a beginning.

    I wouldn't put any more effort into someone who refused to meet me after 5 months, let alone 2 weeks. Either move back to where you're from or make a new life in her town without her.

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    You should not have moved to her town. You should have asked her twice, and that should have been it. Five months?? Dude?!?!

    You need to delete and block her number. She has NEVER been interested. You are making yourself look foolish by continuing to reach out. It is really looking like you have no self respect.

    Have you even met?

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    She keeps suggesting hang out and lets see where it goes but it never happened. We used be best friends in our grad school. At that she was really into me.

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    She has shown you that she is not truly interested. I would cut this off. Now.

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    I just dont wana leave it incomplete. It really broke my heart. I just wanted to talk it off. We used to be best friends I never thought she could be so mean

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    She was your best friend? You did not state that in your first post.

    Then, you should tell her how you feel. It does not sound like she is on the same page. Sorry.

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    I know she is not on the same page and I dont wana put any pressure on her but I when she cancels the hangouts and ignores my texts i really feel like she is trying to fade away. When i ask her ' after all these sacrifice and effort, do you wana lose someone like me? ' then she said not she doesnt want to lose but my emotions are pushing her away and i need not to be so emotional.

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    Did she ask you to move to her?

    Clearly her action show that she is not interested.

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    It seems that you made the design all on your own to move to her state. She owes you nothing as this was what YOU choose to do. You made the choice to make sacrifices, which you should not have done. Why didn't you date her when you were living in the same city?

    Also, I thought it was odd that she goes from being a female friend to your best friend. The story sees to be changing, the more i press for answers.

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