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    new boyfriend much smaller than ex, does it get better?

    I have a lovely lovely new boyfriend, and have just started sleeping with him - he is great but i cannot lie that I was a bit disappointed when I first got a feel of down there and found out his penis is a lot smaller than my ex-boyfriends.

    I havent slept with many people and i'm sure his penis is not tiny, however i am realising just how massive my ex-boyfriend was. he turned out to be quite a bas**rd but my god, there were fireworks in the bedroom! he was incredibly passionate and i've never had sex like it. Its taken me a long time to get over him as my heart was badly broken. I'm so happy ive finally met someone lovely but I'm really worried the sex will not be as good. I know it gets SO much better the more you know each other etc, and I've been having a browse of posts about positions to try etc but the question i'm asking is will my treacherous mind stop the comparison? Will I forget how incredible my ex was and be able to re-create such fireworks with a much smaller penis? Has anyone been in this position and then genuinely found that it didnt matter at all after a time?

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    Why not involve a dildo in the proceedings?

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    Perhaps your breasts don't quite match up to this guy's ex-girlfriend's breasts and maybe he is wondering if he will be as turned on by you since your breasts are nowhere near as attractive as his ex's breasts. Maybe he is wondering if he will ever be able to put the ex's breasts behind him and have the sizzle and fireworks in the bedroom with your less than stellar breasts.

    My point is, you are making major assumptions on his sexual prowess and ability to please you simply on his penis size. Where is your ex now? Not with you...so clearly there is more to a relationship than sex with someone who is well hung. Perhaps you are not yet ready to be in a relationship..because if you were you wouldn't be comparing penis sizes and you wouldn't give a thought to the sex you had with your ex, you would simply being looking forward to the day when you and this "lovely, lovely new boyfriend" will get it on.

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    I think good sex is as much about sexual chemistry as organ size... Are you missing the 'bad boy' element of the sex? If that's so, you can try to spice up the sex life more by being more experimental to see if your mind gets more engaged and excited about the sex.

    Some of the best sex i've ever had was with someone with a smaller penis, but he certainly knew how to create sexual energy and make sex exciting.

    So perhaps you need to work on the chemistry thing with your boyfriend. find ways to spice the sex up with toys etc. rather than just focusing on the physical mechanics of a large penis.

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    I'm flabbergasted that you are even asking this question, when the only true way to find out is to...I mean, are our repsonses to your question the best way to answer this one. Plus, should you really be discussing your new boyfriends penis, on line in this way with the rest of us? I hope he isn't doing the same over your breasts, bottom and fanny!

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    The way you talk about your ex and how passionate he was. I picked up that you aren't over your boyfriend. It will be impossible to actually feel passionate about anyone else, if your mind is still stuck on your ex. It's not anything bad on your part. It's just something that you have to think about. Something you might have to ask yourself.

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    youll get used to it that as all i can say. my current bf i much smaller than my ex. it was hard to get used to it. the way it felt in my mouth/hand and how it didnt feel as good inside me, but after a while he will become the norm for you and things will be fantastic. i now think my bf's penis is the best ever, but a year and a half ago, i didnt know if i could get used to it. took about 6 months to truly forget what i was used to and appreciate him and his awesome penis

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    Humm, this thread pretty much illustrates why guys worry a lot.

    Umm, Well, If you want to make it better with your new bf, then you have to *want* to make it better with your new bf, and what ever it is he is packing.

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    hm...you should keep an open mind with him. please don't assume that his size will mean a lack of his ability. also, most couples will have to communicate about what they like and don't like, in order to have great sex that satisfies them both.

    your ex was good in the bedroom, it wasn't all about his size right? so this guy can be the same.

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    Agree with the previous poster and if you can't get over his size, please set him free so that he can meet a woman for whom that wouldn't be an issue - I am certain he will have his pick.

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