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    There is no one on this planet more shy than myself... I used to be so quiet and unnoticed I was practically invisable. Always so afraid of rejection I'd rather be thrown in lion pit than dare ask a girl out. Never wanting to get caught looking was the worst mistake one can make, read on.

    A revelation came to me one morning and that's when everything changed. It's okay to let a woman see that you take a sexual notice in her. Will that get you a date with her, No! But it will get you a date with a woman that has the same feeling towards you, If she doesn't see that you take a sexual interest in her then your just another "nice guy" she would have liked to date, but you never gave her any clue that you saw her in that way. Second and more importantly is the fact that all women see men as dogs to one degree or another and if your not being a dog your not sending out sexual clues. Really women are not as offended as one might think about men and their dog behavior. In fact it's when men are not being dogs that sends them the signal of boring. So, see its far more hurtful to your dating potential, by not being a dog and thus lotting you into the "Nice Guy zone". Now I'm not saying a man should behave as a jerk towards women but if your not being a dog your not going to register on her radar as dating material. It's okay to be a little bad, your still the nice guy that women want but a nice guy doesn't really garner attraction. Always remember before any date can happen there must be attraction and the two are as opposite in rules as quantum phyiscs and relativity. Be sweet and nice on the date but to get the date you have to be a little outspoken, opinionated, stuborn, and uncompromising... Be the Dog.

    If you keep in mind your not really asking for a date therfore your not going to get rejected. Your just saying aloud what others dare not speak of and if she gasp your on the right track.

    Some of the things posted by the orginal poster are close but I really don't think being shy means no confidence. "Confidence" on face value seems to extend beyond it's meaning to include things it doesn't represent when it comes to a shy guy. I've know some fairly shy guys that could ride a bull , and wrestle an alligator but couldn't be dragged accross a floor to ask a girl out. So, Confidence isn't the right word to use for confidence must have bravery and I have no question these shy guys are brave. They are just shy when it comes to asking a girl out. You never here two women say O' I think he's just a low confidence guy they say O' I think he's just shy.


    As I said at the beginging there is no one more so shy than myself on this planet. I'm also a really nice and decent person deep down inside. But I'm aware that neither of these traits bleed attraction. So, I now say what's on my mind and I make no apologies in letting a woman know I find her sexy. It's not rude it's not disrespectful and she wants to know a man sees her in that light.

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    I agree ALWAYS let a woman know you find her appealing, interesting, beautiful, fun, etc. If she feels you desire her AND she is the one that desires you..well then things should fall into place. If she's not THE GIRL and doesn't feel the same way, then honestly you have lost nothing and won't ever look back and wonder what if...what if i had showed her, what if i had expressed it to her in some way, what if....?

    She won't know unless you let her see it.

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    "Always remember before any date can happen there must be attraction and the two are as opposite in rules as quantum physics and relativity."

    Now I understand! Nobody ever put it in those terms before!

    On the serious side, though, that does make sense.

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    Originally Posted by shygal2008
    I agree ALWAYS let a woman know you find her appealing, interesting, beautiful, fun, etc. If she feels you desire her AND she is the one that desires you..well then things should fall into place. If she's not THE GIRL and doesn't feel the same way, then honestly you have lost nothing and won't ever look back and wonder what if...what if i had showed her, what if i had expressed it to her in some way, what if....?

    She won't know unless you let her see it.
    Very well put Me lady. Maybe if these shy men heard a few more women speak up about how they want to be told they are found to be interesting and beautiful. Then maybe these shy guys would wake up to the fact that it's okay to tell a women these things. The root of the problem for shy guys is the media and television try to protray it as women find it offensive if a guy whistles at a woman.

    Now you tell me what woman deep down would be offened if she walked past a group of guys and they all stopped what they was doing to watch her pass? A woman wants to know she still has what it takes to get looks and that's the truth. Whether they want to openly admit it or not.

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    Originally Posted by Stuffy Nose
    "Always remember before any date can happen there must be attraction and the two are as opposite in rules as quantum physics and relativity."

    Now I understand! Nobody ever put it in those terms before!

    On the serious side, though, that does make sense.
    It makes sense because it is the reality. Believe you me I couldn't tell you the number of stories I've been told or heard of women all wanting nice men. Yet why is it they always go after the direct opposite? Attraction isn't dating or a realtionship, its all about lighting a fire. This is why the rules are so totally different between the two, they are like oil and water they just don't mix. Now, if your a decent guy and you can master this art of being the opposite of what you are when first meeting, then your going to be a woman's dream guy come true.

    All you have to do is remind yourself ever time an instance presents itself. when you say in your mind "O' I couldn't do that" ignore it and just go do what you wouldn't. It's easier than you think and if you get shot down no big deal. Because attraction is more about getting as many bullets in your plane as possible. It's dating where you don't want to get shot down. So, don't think the two are linked they are not. If she's agreed to go out on a date she's already found something about you that's interesting. That's when and where you show the manners your mother taught you. But before there can be a date one must be attractive and that doesn't mean it's based on looks. I've seen plenty of not so good looking guys with some great looking women. Why is that? Sometimes it's money but the majority of the time the guy has an appeal to him, be it charm or he's just great with humor.

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    I am not into the whistling or cat calls, most women are not i believe BUT if a nice shy guy came up to me to pay me a compliment on the color top i had on (brings out the blue in my eyes type thing) or just let me know he loved talkng to me or being around me...told me he thought i had a great smile...i'd think that was very sweet and i'd feel very good AND if i liked him then i would know i could move forward and see what happens.

    As long as you don't cross the line, especially in the work place, men need to be super careful.

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    Originally Posted by shygal2008
    I am not into the whistling or cat calls, most women are not i believe BUT if a nice shy guy came up to me to pay me a compliment on the color top i had on (brings out the blue in my eyes type thing) or just let me know he loved talkng to me or being around me...told me he thought i had a great smile...i'd think that was very sweet and i'd feel very good AND if i liked him then i would know i could move forward and see what happens.

    As long as you don't cross the line, especially in the work place, men need to be super careful.
    Well, I don't do the whistling thing either, O' I might look her way and give a smile but never a cat call.

    I was just trying to give a crude example of something that's a double edge sword. On the one hand a woman doesn't like to be seen as a piece of meat but on the other hand she also likes to know she can still get the looks (you gals are some mixed up creatures? You say you don't want attention then read countless books on how to improve your looks). Come'on if you walked by a group of construction workers all decked out and they didn't even take notice of you then you would feel you had lost your attractiveness. Not that you want to be whistled at but if your not getting any attention you would be far more saddened than any cat call you've had to hear...

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    still frustrating

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    VERY FRUSTRATING especially when you know they like you but they have social anxiety and/or are love shy and are inexperienced so they won't even bother to do more than stare or say hello. Some are too proud to get help and others won't admit they even have a problem with women - so sad

    Shy men...why won't you TRY?

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    Because they are shy men

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