I have been with my guy for 2 1/2 years. We have been married for 7 months. We did not have sex before marriage because he wanted to wait and "do it right this time". I respected that.
However, I was not dealt the same respect. On our wedding night I was told things were not working right. I chalked it up to the commotion of the last few days leading to the marriage. We were both exhausted. 7 long months later we still have not had sex. He says he didn't know this was gonna happen. I say, there is no way he DIDN'T know this was happening. I am positive it didn't stop working on May 31! I feel I had a right to know that this was basically going to be a sexless marriage. I love him dearly but I do have a right to the way I live my life. I cannot imagine living the rest of my life and never having sex.
He does not touch me, we do kiss and hold hands(a peck, no passionate kiss). He says it is not me. He says I am beuatiful and he loves me but I am left feeling so undesirable and alone. If the tables were turned I would most definitely please my man. He, however does not see it that way. He wouldn't help me out if he had to.
I am just floored at this situation. He makes no attempt to remedy the situation or find out the cause. I think that is part of what irritates me. He basically acts like it doesn't matter to him so why should it matter to me? He keeps saying "there is more to a relationship than sex"....yeah I got that....6 months ago but what about now?
How do you live with someone that you love and never desire them? How long would you put up with this before you let him go? Other than this I love him so very much and we have it good except for this. I know sex is not the only aspect to a relationship and truthfully I would probably stay with him regardless. But what is everyone's opinion....is this ever a reason to leave someone? And how long is too long to be involved with someone like this?