Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 5 1234 ... LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 45

Thread: ex won't tell me about his new girlfriend

  1. #1
    Daligal83
    Platinum Member Daligal83's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Age
    32
    Posts
    3,755
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    5

    ex won't tell me about his new girlfriend

    I broke up with my ex in April. He definitely did not want the break up, but wanted to stay friends. Even though I've had a non-existent dating life since then, I'm really happy that I made that decision because he just was not the right person for me.

    So we still talk, but only through instant messenger really. I found out a couple months ago through Facebook that he has a new girlfriend and I was happy to realize that it didn't bother me at all. I see pictures of them together and I'm fine. Just more evidence that I made the right decision.


    What does bother me is that he hasn't told me about her. Right now he's away for an internship, and she goes to school where I live. So he'll tell me that he went to this city to visit friends. He'll say that he really misses people here. And he also frequently asks to hang out when he comes back.

    I'm just wondering if you guys have any insight if this is something I need to worry about. I mean if I was in her position, I'd be really upset if my boyfriend was asking his ex to hang out but hadn't told her about me. And I have seen him in person since he started dating her and nada.

  2. #2
    la'isla
    la'isla's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2008
    Location
    Canadian
    Posts
    2,299
    Gender
    Female
    i myself don't see anything wrong with it..then again i am kind of reserved about things like this. if he doesn't want to tell you then he doesn't. plus i think he KNOWS that you know about her, since you saw her pictures on facebook. so what's the big deal?

  3. #3
    Crazyaboutdogs
    Platinum Member Crazyaboutdogs's Avatar
    Join Date
    May 2006
    Location
    Canada
    Age
    52
    Posts
    25,673
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    16
    Is it possible that he told her about you but just didn't tell you about her?

  4. #4
    ad-mortem
    Member ad-mortem's Avatar
    Join Date
    Dec 2008
    Location
    Ireland
    Age
    25
    Posts
    42
    Gender
    Male
    It could be that he feels awkward telling you because you used to date and wants to keep his relationships completely separate from his friendship with you so as not to confuse things. Or it could simply be that he didn't think to say you, especially if they aren't too serious.

  5. #5
    Cognitive_Canine
    Platinum Member Cognitive_Canine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Location
    Somewhere over the rainbow
    Posts
    17,569
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    5
    Seems like an awkward thing to talk about.

  6. #6
    Daligal83
    Platinum Member Daligal83's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Age
    32
    Posts
    3,755
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    5
    It is an awkward thing to talk about and I can understand him not telling me about someone serious. We're not going to be the friends we were before we dated where we tell each other about our love lives. But they've been dating for a couple months...so I'd think by now the relationship is important enough to mention. It sounds like I'm just over thinking it though.

  7. #7
    lady00
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    May 2004
    Age
    32
    Posts
    9,491
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    9
    I agree with DW...awkward topic. It's not necessary to bring it up IMO. I see my ex from time to time (small campus) and we chat about our lives (what's new, what we have been up to) but I never bring up my bf. I just don't see the need. Whether or not the relationship is important or serious (getting there in my case) makes no difference as to whether or not I tell my ex. If I were to get engaged I would probably mention if asked what is new in my life, but other than that, I don't talk about it at all.

  8. #8
    Daligal83
    Platinum Member Daligal83's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Age
    32
    Posts
    3,755
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    5
    lady...do you run into your ex or actually plan to get together? From how my ex talks, it's like he wants an actual friendship where we call each other up to go hang out.

  9. #9
    lady00
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    May 2004
    Age
    32
    Posts
    9,491
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    9
    Also, he knows that you know about her...you found out on his facebook so he is actually being really open about the existence of the relationship--to everyone.

  10. #10
    Cognitive_Canine
    Platinum Member Cognitive_Canine's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jul 2007
    Location
    Somewhere over the rainbow
    Posts
    17,569
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    5
    My bf used to call me over the summer. We'd never talk about his new girlfriend. And they went out for like 3 months or so...

    Cept once he did mention that she got drunk and threw up in his car. I think that was his way of saying that it wasn't going very well....

    Still, it's a sensitive topic. I mean, what could he say about her? Not to mention, talking about a new girlfriend, he probably thinks, is rude and mean to you. I would be glad that he doesn't bring it up. Seems like a nice guy.

  11.  

Page 1 of 5 1234 ... LastLast
Top Threads
New here. Difficult task ahead today.... any support would be welcome
Hi all, I am new here. I was directed here by a friend after my bf of 1.5 years broke up with me. I am struggling for two reasons. One, our
Should I reach out?
So my ex-boyfriend is an Aquarius and I knew him for about a year before we began dating December of last year for about 3 months. Towards the end of
Ex texts at 5am (probably drunk) saying "You up?"
Theres probably a million of these nonsense posts on the forums, but i was wondering what we should do when you get this text having not seen or
Think I finally reached my breaking point...
So, I have posted a couple threads lately about this upcoming plan to meet up with my ex. Quick backstory... we were together 4 years. I bought a
Made a huge mistake....
I found this site and the people on it such a great help last July when my ex broke up with me. I've got myself into a bit of a pickle and really
My ex boyfriend is weird
Well here it goes , Me and my ex boyfriend dated in 2012 and broke up at the end of 2012 , he dated someone new but he then dumped her , and we got
"The unfinished business" excuse
hi, just wondering what everyone opinion on this is. i met a girl awhile ago and talk everyday and had plan to go a movie this week. tonight i

Featured Threads
He took my sisters virginity!
Well.. Here goes nothing. I don't have anyone to talk to and hoping to get some insight. My mind is confused and my heart is completely
Dating after working in the sex industry
Hey all, I'm coming out of a difficult time in my life where i worked as a sex worker. I just wanted some opinions on how to handle this when I begin
My boyfriend hangs out one on one with his ex am I right to feel uncomfortable?
Hi everyone, I posted here before about how my boyfriend and his ex are close friends. Long story short, they date for two years, realised they were
What does this mean?
I'm a 24 year old man and I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 5 years. But I'm feeling like this relationship is built on blind trust
Is this just "The 21st Century Woman?"
For the past 5 years, every woman I've dated (ages 25-32 we'll say) has had to stress to me immediately, before anything gets going, that they are
Venting I guess... I miss having sex.
So... I don't know if there is any real advice that can be given here. But I'm sure people here can at least relate and maybe share their
My boyfriend curses at me but says he's joking?
Hi everyone, My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 8 months and while everything has been great so far except that he curses at me but says
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •