"Experimental"

I have been wanting to ask this for a few weeks, but I was hesitating. But why not... I'll go ahead and ask.

Has anyone "experimented" with the same sex but doesn't think they are lesbian/gay?

I know people who are lesbian or gay, and I also know a few bi-sexuals. I know that my gay/lesbian friends just don't "care" or "have the need" (whatever you want to call it) to be with the opposite sex, and my bi-sexual friend KNOWS she likes both. (Going by the few that I have really talked to about all this.)

I am just wondering if there are people who don't classify themselves as anything but straight but have or want to "experiment" with the same sex.

I know, I know... curiosity killed the cat. I don't want this to be a heated argument about sexual preferences, so let's just to keep it to the question!

I have indeed experimented and found that although physical satisfaction is possible it just wasn't my cup of tea.

my first ever crush when i was a kid was on a girl,

i have experimented with a lot of women,

i often meet a lot of women who i find incredibly sexy, intelligent, funny, etc and i am rather attracted to them

however i have only ever had straight relationships and don't think i would ever date a girl.

to put it this way, my ex boyfriends have all been me in male form

and i once thought i was in love with a very close (female) friend of mine until i realised... she is me, we act the same, talk the same, have the same humour & ideals... but i don't want another me!

Yes, and I turned out bisexual

Experimenting means you are testing or acting on something for the "purpose of discovering something unknown." How many attempts does it take to determine that? Each person defines this for themselves.

I think people can be whatever they determine themselves to be. I personally don't think that just because a person experiments with sexuality (the same sex) that they should automatically be labeled a "gay" person. Only they should define themselves. I think many people however refer to themselves early as bi-curious. This, to me, is the experimenting phase. Once they have established (if they do that is) that they do enjoy the same sex in some fashion they will then call themselves bi-sexual. There are also many degrees of bi-sexual behavior that people are comfortable with. Some women simply like the touch/kiss of a woman but aren't interested in oral sex. Each person defines their sexuality individually with what they are comfortable with.

Experimenting can also mean a multitude of things from looking at pornography, to reading fiction, to stimulating artificially the sensation in tandem with imagination to actually physically trying it out, the context can also be with type of sex, not gender, but you're speaking of just gender-sexuality so I'll curtail to that.

Sexuality (homo, bi, hetero, etc) is determined by whatever means one deems necessary be it talking, thinking, or doing and sometimes people just know (the whole "don't know 'til you try" is a childish statement with little truth, i mean I know I won't like murder but I'm not going to test it, something I already know). It's whatever one is comfortable with and can define themselves with.

So yes, some that experiment are hetero, other's bi, other homo, and some in between (like to watch but not touch, etc etc as Blue outlines).

It's very healthy to experiment. I always liked and thought the same same sex was very attractive

i find women attractive and have always wanted to see what its like to be with some one of the same sex, but only on a sexual basis. i really don't think i'm bi or gay, just something i thought would be an interesting thing to experience.

I feel like it's much more socially acceptable for female same-sex experimentation than the male counterpart.

It seems like female experimentaion is more common, but that may only be because it is more taboo for a man to disclose that information.

I am also straight and have had a few sexual encounters with other females. I don't think I'm bi-sexual but I did enjoy them and most likely will have more. I don't think I could date another female, mostly because I can't have a female best friend because of the catiness with it all. I do think other females are attractive and sexually satisfying... I guess I was just wondering if there was anyone else like. Thanks for all you guys' input!! It really helped me understand what I was experiencing better.

I am totally straight, and have never been sexually attracted to women, but I have kissed women on a number of occasions and thoroughly enjoyed it. I have a married friend who, whenever I am out with, tends to flirt with me. And I have kissed her once. Or twice (?). Her husband is openly bisexual, and they have an open relationship when it comes to the opposite sex. Actually, both of them generally hit on me. Threesome? I dunno.

But anyway, I am totally curious about sex with a woman. I don't know if I'd ever go through with it, but I've certainly been close with this friend of mine. The slight sexual tension between us is only as awkward as we make it, but we really do get on very well as friends, which is why I'd consider doing it with her in a situation that could be within my control.

But anyway, I am totally curious about sex with a woman. I don't know if I'd ever go through with it, but I've certainly been close with this friend of mine. The slight sexual tension between us is only as awkward as we make it, but we really do get on very well as friends, which is why I'd consider doing it with her in a situation that could be within my control.

All the girls that I have had a sexual experience with were all 3 straight and my friends. It didn't make it awkward at all afterwards... Haha.

Because bisexuality is often perceived as an ambiguous personal choice made between homosexuality and heterosexuality, bisexuals form a heterogeneous group and the relations between their behaviors, feelings, and identities are not always accepted as consistent. Many who might be classified as bisexual on the basis of their primary sexual behavior self-identify as homosexual. Heterosexual people who engage in occasional homosexual behavior could be considered bisexual, but may not identify as such. Those who believe that sexuality and sexual orientation is a distinctly defined aspect of the character consider this ambiguity problematic. On the other hand, those who believe that the majority of humans contain aspects of both homosexuality and heterosexuality, but that the intensities of these can vary from person to person, consider it rational behavior.[citation needed] Some people who engage in bisexual behavior may be supportive of homosexual people, but still self-identify as heterosexual; others may consider any labels irrelevant to their positions and situations. In 1995, Harvard Shakespeare professor Marjorie Garber made the academic case for bisexuality with her 600 page, Vice Versa: Bisexuality and the Eroticism of Everyday Life in which she argued that most people would be bisexual if not for "repression, religion, repugnance, denial" and "premature specialization."[15](link removed)

(Yes! It is Natural to experiement and still be straight)

Wikipedia isn't a great source to use, though the reference lists are decent

I'm a male and I can say that I've "helped out" one of my best friends who is gay but he's the type you'd never be able to tell unless he told you. He doesn't get much action and has a huge crush on me so on three occasions I've let him give me oral. We've had this discussion and he knows that I'm only straight and I told him that I'm helping him out since he loves giving head and I love getting head. So I got really inebriated (have to be haha) and let him do his thing. That's a true friend haha

I'm a male and I can say that I've "helped out" one of my best friends who is gay but he's the type you'd never be able to tell unless he told you. He doesn't get much action and has a huge crush on me so on three occasions I've let him give me oral. We've had this discussion and he knows that I'm only straight and I told him that I'm helping him out since he loves giving head and I love getting head. So I got really inebriated (have to be haha) and let him do his thing. That's a true friend haha

LoL thats funny, you are a such a good friend