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    my ex sent me message on facebook

    my ex and me have been broken up for 3 months now.
    One day she told me that I do not have enough feelings for her and that was it.

    I deleted her from my facebook as part of my nc. She sent me facebook message: " seriously, deleting me from your facebook contact list, come on". I do not get what is trying to say? Should I respons somehow? Any advice is appreciated

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    Quote Originally Posted by Boomer [Register to see the link]
    my ex and me have been broken up for 3 months now.
    One day she told me that I do not have enough feelings for her and that was it.

    I deleted her from my facebook as part of my nc. She sent me facebook message: " seriously, deleting me from your facebook contact list, come on". I do not get what is trying to say? Should I respons somehow? Any advice is appreciated
    what would responding accomplish?

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    ignore her... she is obviously pissed off and was pretty immature to send that messge.

    Don't stoop to her level

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    She's trying to get a rise out of you... it's her way of controlling the situation. I'm sure she doesn't like it that you've gone NC and it's bugging her that you might be out there, having a good time, etc.

    Take the high road, and don't respond. OR if you really, really feel the need, then tell her the truth... that you're trying to heal and move on and having her facebook there was preventing your healing. But if you do respond, you're opening up a door that you may not want to have open..

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    I just feel that relationship was given up too easily. Never had a chance for real conversation. At the time I did not know but now it looks like she found someone else because I saw pictures on facebook. I guess no point now anyway. I do not want to expose myself so I get a boot again if I tell her the truth. SO I guess continue NC

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    I mean relationship has a fair amount of disaggrements and can't be smooth all the time so people need to work on it and not just give up like she did

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    As the above poster said, she is trying to get a reaction out of you. She wants you to respond to prove something to herself.

    Do yourself a favour, and don't reply. She's playing games with you.

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    I agree don't reply.

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    Thanks guys for your support. You really help me. This time I did not plead and ask and annoy her like a did in relationship before this one. Thanks to you . At least I manage to keep some sort of dignity

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    So I guess maybe she wanted to see if to invite me to her birthday party. She sent me a text " happy birthday" back in august for my 30. I thought it was nice but lame. SMS instead of calling and wishing happy birthday. Should I wish her happy birthday or refrain from it at all?

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