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    if you end up alone, will you ever be truly happy?

    So, we hear a lot about having to learn to be happy on your own but do you honestly think that you could be happy if love just never happens to you?

    I know i'm feeling cynical and lonely post break-up but i'm terrified i will never find anyone in my life and love is the only thing that matters to me. Friends are hugely important but life with love is THE thing that makes it all worthwhile.

    If i end up alone I just dont think i'll ever be truly happy. Any advice?

    I feel a deep loneliness no matter how many people i am surrounded by, how good my friends are, since losing my best friend in my ex-boyfriend. (He has a new girlfriend and it was an awful split so we're unlikely to ever speak again which is killing me) and people say things like "the longer you feel sad the longer it will take to meet mr right" and i've watched friends lives take off when theyve found someone (just as mine did with him) what if that never happens to me again, will i ever shake off this awful sense of loss and that i'm missing out (because I know that I am - i remember being with him and how amazing it felt, and now the new girlfriend gets it all ;-(

    Thoughts?

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    You are young....odds are in your favor for finding love again.

    No, at my age and stage in life, I don't know. I'm working on having a great life without it.

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    I doubt i'd ever be completely happy alone. Idk I wouldn't be extremely unhappy or anything, but i would love to have a companion.

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    You are 24 years old. With good self care and some luck you will live to be 100+. You're end will be a long time from now. Concentrate on being the person you want to be today. And you will eventually attract the right person to you.

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    Depends on the person. My mom is in her 60s and has been alone since she was in her mid 30s. She was married to my dad, they divorced, and she had a live in relationship for a few years. They broke up.

    She said she just didnt see herself doing it again. She LOVES being alone. She is probably very atypical but she is very happy as is.

    Just one story for ya. I am sure there are many others like it.
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    I think so but that's just me. It's wonderful to have someone in your life but IMO if you NEED someone to be 100% happy, you're too dependent. I was this way before my divorce and was an absolute wreck when the relationship disintegrated. But since then I learned to be happy on my own. Do I love my girlfriend... without a doubt. Does she bring me happiness? Yes. BUT... if I didn't have her in my life would I still be happy? Yes.

    I would try not to worry so much about finding someone and just concentrating on making your life as wonderful as you can.

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    no one can ever be perfectly happy. in a relationship or not.
    the times when you feel perfectly content are fleeting, life isnt about sticking to one point on a chart, its and endless flow no matter what happens, good or bad. single or taken.

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    pixelpusher...how did you manage to find that happiness?

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    I think I could, yes. There are a lot of things that give me great pleasure and bring happiness and lots of joy to my life. A relationship can do that to an extent, but I don't think that is where happiness comes from for me. A relationship, to me, is just the icing on the cake.

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    I am happy alone...but to be honest, there is most definitely a void in my life. I want to love and be loved but that has not happened for me and it likely never will. This has been my life for the last 45 years and sadly I don't think it will change. I am not a man magnet and nor do I fall very easily for anyone. I have been burned royally in the love department to the point where I have had no benefits from loving someone, only heartache and knives in the back, stalking, using, wanting to take from me but give absolutely nothing in return. Will I ever be truly happy alone...maybe not...but I know that I will never truly be happy with someone who can't love and can ony use.

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