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    Baldwin009
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    The text message VS the phone call

    Im thinking when u get a girls phone number she wants to hang out, should i text or call.

    The text message has its advantages: Quick, u can get the message accross fast, u dont have to deal with the chance of being awkward on the phone, u can have a moment to think about what ur going to say.

    The phone call: A lot more personal, if it goes well u can have a good conversation, shows some kind of confidence i guess, can get the whole message accross with 1 phone call.

    Basically in this day and age texting is popular but what do girls prefer, a guy to call them or to text them. Its kind of a stupid question but i want to hear what u guys have to say.

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    I think each individual is different but i much prefer a guy to text me instead of call.

    Actually with calling i think i would be to nervous to answer so i would most probably let it go to voicemail a few times before picking up the phone or calling him back.

    Text is the way to go for me. Any guy who sends me a message is more likely to get an instant positive response from me than if they called

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    Once upon a time I would say phone call... but to be honest, I guess I've grown so used to texting now, and also so busy and often unable to answer my own phone, that I'll accept either.... at FIRST.

    Texting definitely has it's advantages, like you point out, but I think the downside is that people start to lean on it too much and then avoid other contact altogether.

    I'd still like to know that a guy is at least capable of carrying on a conversation and has the cahones to actually call me. Kinda shows that he does like me enough and does have enough interest. Texting only seems rather lazy.

    But text first is ok... chat a bit... then maybe ask if you can give a call?

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    That's a tough one! I'd say if your really really nervous then txting is good, but I think an old fashioned phone call shows more interest. I don't know, that is just me!

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    i find this interesting, i always thought that texting kind of shows the girl that ur not so confident, but i would prefer texting. I thought girls would prefer phone calls (since u all talk on the phone so much!) but guys like me, im not really used to holding on a conversation on the phone. When guys call each other its like,

    "Hey whats up?"
    "Nothing what r u doing tonight?"
    "I dont know yet u wanna kick it?"
    "sure ill head over"

    end of convo

    Girls can talk for hours though. I dont know its interesting to hear some of u prefer texting.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Baldwin009 [Register to see the link]

    Girls can talk for hours though. I dont know its interesting to hear some of u prefer texting.
    I think there is a difference between preferring texting for first contact and ALL contact though.

    Most women DO still want the ability to carry on a conversation... that's my hunch at least, and that is how I feel.

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    i prefer phone calls.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nixee [Register to see the link]
    I think there is a difference between preferring texting for first contact and ALL contact though.

    Most women DO still want the ability to carry on a conversation... that's my hunch at least, and that is how I feel.
    o yeh, no if i was getting in a relationship i wouldnt continue to text all the time of course i would call. But im talking about for those first few convos

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    My last r/s i would prefer we always text and we did most of the time but he preferred to call me lol

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    Perhaps texting might be the way to go after you get a number ,for the first time,so you can ask her to do something ,but I don't see the point of random texting talking about other things.A simple text like ''hey ,let's do something Thursday,are you free?I think would be ideal.

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