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Thread: Are anniversaries a big deal when you're not married?

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    Are anniversaries a big deal when you're not married?

    I'm interested to know what people think on this one.

    A friend of mine has been with her bf for a year, he thought their anniversary was in July when it was in fact in August and when she corrected him he still didn't buy her flowers or do anything special.

    She has now gone back to her home country to stay with her parents but she texted me because she was so upset.

    Is her bf really that serious about her? He rarely tells her he loves her.

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    I would be upset if my bf of a year did nothing for our anniversary.

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    Our 1 year anniversary is next month - I am wondering if we'll do something special.

    My flatmate has gone to Italy with his bf. They had champagne before they left, and they gave eachother special presents. My flatmate's bf who is a big earner paid for the whole trip, all my flatmate had to bring was spending money.

    They have a great relationship and are good at communicating.

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    I think she needs to evaluate the relationship with him. He doesn't seem that "into her" and she needs to move on if he isn't and find someone deserving of her affections.

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    From the things she has told me, he isn't that in to her.

    He is off most weekends mountain biking with his mates, or at his parent's place helping on their farm.

    He doesn't contact her the whole time either.

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    I'm not highly concerned about getting gifts for anniversary's especially when not married.

    Would it be nice? Sure. But not expected.

    He did buy you that nice watch recently, maybe he'll get you something for your anniversary too. Better make sure he knows the date though.

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    The truth on the nice watch is that I had already bought it for myself. I had mentioned to him that I had waited months for it to go half price.

    Anyway, he sent it back and got his money back!

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    Originally Posted by allypally
    The truth on the nice watch is that I had already bought it for myself. I had mentioned to him that I had waited months for it to go half price.

    Anyway, he sent it back and got his money back!
    Yeah but he tried, no?

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    Just some recognition. LOL

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    I think anniversary dates are very important even when not married....and by anniversary I mean 1 year, 2 years etc...not one month, two months... I don't think the giving gifts is important, what is important is recognizing the day because it adds to the growing bond between two people. I don't think anything extravagant has to happen, like a weekend getaway or whatever...but just some little token acknowledgement of the day...a cute note, a phone call, a little inside joke..something subtle and not over the top. That to me is more romantic than the overblown celebration.

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