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Thread: It takes me FOREVER to cum during sex. Sometimes I don't at all.

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    Blayzn
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    It takes me FOREVER to cum during sex. Sometimes I don't at all.

    I don't know what the problem is. It feels good, and I love it. But, most of the time it'll take over an hour. She gets bored with sex after about 45 minutes or so, so I feel bad. We both really enjoy it up to that point, then it just gets agrivating. It may be because I have low energy, and it doesn't take much for me to get tired. I don't know. I don't know if it's because I always have stuff on my mind. Alot of times, it ends up with masturbation. I don't seem to have a problem getting off that way. Anybody else had this problem? If so, what did you do?

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    hmmm, sorry about that.

    are you on any medications? like anti-depressants?

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    Nope. I don't take any kind of medication.

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    How old are you? How long have you to been going out? How long have you been intimate?

    Sorry to quiz you, but it kinda helps to diagnose things and suggest a course of action.

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    I'm 27 years old. We started having sex last December. We knew each other since November. I've always kind of had this problem. When I first lost my virginity, it took me about 2 and a half hours to get off. There's also been girls that it didn't take me very long at all with. I think it may be some kind of mental thing, but I really don't know what it could be.

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    I have read about this problem in an agony aunt page in a women's mag - I think it is something to do with being too used to getting off by masturbation to the point where that is the only way you can come. Maybe if you laid off the handjobs in between the sex you would find it a bit easier? I'm sure there will be something about this on the net if you search... you're certainly not the first with this problem!

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    I can understand her frustration---after awhile, it hurts! It's probably not that she's bored after 45 min, but that she's dry and too stretched.

    Try a lubricant. Also try a hand job or blow job before and during sex, to help speed things along. Try not to cum from those, just try to provide extra stimulation.

    It sounds like you're always been a "marathon man", and it doesn't sound age or medication related.

    Maybe it is mental. There I can't help you, except to say just relax and try to enjoy yourself and try other types of stimulation.

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    I don't know if you need it, but I am obligated to give the standard advice of masterbating less and looking at porn less, especially when you anticipate that you are going to be together. I apologise in advance, if I offend.

    I sometimes have a similiar problem and notice that one thing that can happen is that I concentrate so hard on not coming too soon, that it makes hard to come when I or we are ready. Try a couple times where you talk about that you are going to come as soon as you are ready.

    I notice also that if I am too tired or have eaten or drank too much, that can make me take much longer as well. Try doing it in the day after a light workout. Some of the best sex occurs after a workout.

    Try switching postions, we switch to doggy and I don't last more than five minutes after that.

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    About the masturbation thing, for the longest time while was sexually active, I wouldn't masturbate at all. Unless we did it together. We did break up, and didn't have sex for awhile, so I was masturbating quite frequently then. We are not "trying to work things out" I think. lol So, we've been having sex again, and I haven't been masturbating near as much.

    We also have foreplay before sex. We don't do it for a long time, but we do it. She'll go down on me, give me handjobs and stuff like that.

    Maybe it's also because we don't do anything much different from the norm. She has a child, so it's hard to try new places. Maybe there needs to be more excitement in it? I don't know. I still really enjoy what we do. I don't really know what all else to do since most of my partners before wasn't very experimental.

    I'm sure my lack of energy doesn't help either. I get tired so fast! And I know it's not normal. Last night, after 5 minutes, I was already getting tired, and sweaty.

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    Thanks for the advise. I don't take offense at all. I do watch porn (she does also). But, I didn't do it much while we was officially together and had sex frequently. Sometimes we would watch it together though.

    I also concentrate on cumming. I don't concentrate on not cumming too fast, I concentrate on trying to make myself cum because I don't want to last too long.

    I do need to get more exercise. I think that would help with my energy levels, which would help with all kinds of things. I rarely ever workout.

    We do switch positions alot. Maybe we need to learn some new ones, because we usually do the same ones. Though, some positions help get me off more than others

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