Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 22

Thread: It takes me FOREVER to cum during sex. Sometimes I don't at all.

  1. #1
    Blayzn
    Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    17

    It takes me FOREVER to cum during sex. Sometimes I don't at all.

    I don't know what the problem is. It feels good, and I love it. But, most of the time it'll take over an hour. She gets bored with sex after about 45 minutes or so, so I feel bad. We both really enjoy it up to that point, then it just gets agrivating. It may be because I have low energy, and it doesn't take much for me to get tired. I don't know. I don't know if it's because I always have stuff on my mind. Alot of times, it ends up with masturbation. I don't seem to have a problem getting off that way. Anybody else had this problem? If so, what did you do?

  2. #2
    jengh
    Platinum Member jengh's Avatar
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Location
    San Francisco
    Age
    30
    Posts
    7,572
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    1
    hmmm, sorry about that.

    are you on any medications? like anti-depressants?

  3. #3
    Blayzn
    Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    17
    Nope. I don't take any kind of medication.

  4. #4
    madmarten
    Gold Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    634
    How old are you? How long have you to been going out? How long have you been intimate?

    Sorry to quiz you, but it kinda helps to diagnose things and suggest a course of action.

  5. #5
    Blayzn
    Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    17
    I'm 27 years old. We started having sex last December. We knew each other since November. I've always kind of had this problem. When I first lost my virginity, it took me about 2 and a half hours to get off. There's also been girls that it didn't take me very long at all with. I think it may be some kind of mental thing, but I really don't know what it could be.

  6. #6
    Panda2008
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    May 2008
    Posts
    264
    Gender
    Female
    I have read about this problem in an agony aunt page in a women's mag - I think it is something to do with being too used to getting off by masturbation to the point where that is the only way you can come. Maybe if you laid off the handjobs in between the sex you would find it a bit easier? I'm sure there will be something about this on the net if you search... you're certainly not the first with this problem!

  7. #7
    Roasted Carrots
    Gold Member Roasted Carrots's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jun 2004
    Location
    United States
    Posts
    477
    Gender
    Female
    I can understand her frustration---after awhile, it hurts! It's probably not that she's bored after 45 min, but that she's dry and too stretched.

    Try a lubricant. Also try a hand job or blow job before and during sex, to help speed things along. Try not to cum from those, just try to provide extra stimulation.

    It sounds like you're always been a "marathon man", and it doesn't sound age or medication related.

    Maybe it is mental. There I can't help you, except to say just relax and try to enjoy yourself and try other types of stimulation.

  8. #8
    madmarten
    Gold Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    634
    I don't know if you need it, but I am obligated to give the standard advice of masterbating less and looking at porn less, especially when you anticipate that you are going to be together. I apologise in advance, if I offend.

    I sometimes have a similiar problem and notice that one thing that can happen is that I concentrate so hard on not coming too soon, that it makes hard to come when I or we are ready. Try a couple times where you talk about that you are going to come as soon as you are ready.

    I notice also that if I am too tired or have eaten or drank too much, that can make me take much longer as well. Try doing it in the day after a light workout. Some of the best sex occurs after a workout.

    Try switching postions, we switch to doggy and I don't last more than five minutes after that.

  9. #9
    Blayzn
    Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    17
    About the masturbation thing, for the longest time while was sexually active, I wouldn't masturbate at all. Unless we did it together. We did break up, and didn't have sex for awhile, so I was masturbating quite frequently then. We are not "trying to work things out" I think. lol So, we've been having sex again, and I haven't been masturbating near as much.

    We also have foreplay before sex. We don't do it for a long time, but we do it. She'll go down on me, give me handjobs and stuff like that.

    Maybe it's also because we don't do anything much different from the norm. She has a child, so it's hard to try new places. Maybe there needs to be more excitement in it? I don't know. I still really enjoy what we do. I don't really know what all else to do since most of my partners before wasn't very experimental.

    I'm sure my lack of energy doesn't help either. I get tired so fast! And I know it's not normal. Last night, after 5 minutes, I was already getting tired, and sweaty.

  10. #10
    Blayzn
    Member
    Join Date
    Jun 2008
    Posts
    17
    Thanks for the advise. I don't take offense at all. I do watch porn (she does also). But, I didn't do it much while we was officially together and had sex frequently. Sometimes we would watch it together though.

    I also concentrate on cumming. I don't concentrate on not cumming too fast, I concentrate on trying to make myself cum because I don't want to last too long.

    I do need to get more exercise. I think that would help with my energy levels, which would help with all kinds of things. I rarely ever workout.

    We do switch positions alot. Maybe we need to learn some new ones, because we usually do the same ones. Though, some positions help get me off more than others

  11.  

Page 1 of 3 123 LastLast
Top Threads
Trying to lose virginity but the pain is unbearable !!
Hi everyone! I have decided and to lose my virginity. My boyfriend and I have been trying to have sex two times now, but as soon as he tries to
Is It Right To Call Me A Virgin Or No?
Here are the 2 most intimate things I have done with my ex-girlfriend: 1. Doggystyle dry sex and missionary dry sex. 2. Masturbating myself until
Sex without Condom
My boyfriend, who is also the father of my 8y/o child, has been in prison for 5 years, he's out and refuses to have sex without a condom. I am on
Touching me while I sleep
Ok so I'll keep this simple, my boyfriend touches me while I "sleep". I use quotation marks because I sleep really lightly and anyone who touches me
I am having some embarrassing issues related to sex, i need some advice please!
So im a virgin. I am 19 but staying a virgin has been MY personal choice. It may sound lame to some but i have been perfectly content with my
Am I in the wrong here?
In bed this morning my boyfriend and I were sleepily fooling around and after obvious hints from me he initiated foreplay. I was enjoying it and
Why does my boyfriend watch porn??
My partner of 6 years has been watching porn everyday, he lies about needing the toilet when aactually hrs watching porn, I've said to him he can ask
Featured Threads
He Left My Clothes in His Yard to Pick Up
Here is a follow to my situation: After I spent four days with this guy I met online, I inadvertently left a few clothes at his place. Almost two
Does he really think I'm trolling him/can't trust me or is just an excuse?
Met a guy last summer. I broke it off with him 3 times in 6 dates, over concern about distance, but kept apologizing. The last break off he said he
My 8 year old won't go to sleep or stay asleep 😣😣
Feel like I am losing my mind. My 8 year old just won't go to bed.. or she at least won't stay in bed. She is still up now at 9.45pm (after being
HSP in LDR, about to move to be with him and get married
Im a Highly Sensitive Person. I get very overwhelmed very easily. If i dont sleep well, if theres too much noise, if there are too many
Am I being selfish or unreasonable?
Hi everyone, Sorry for my first post to be one of all doom and gloom, but I'm stuck and don't know what to do. I want to start by saying that I
Stomach flu fears
I have a huge fear of stomach flu, if i am exposed or know someone has had it a have really bad anxiety and stress over it. Yesterday at 11am at my
Boyfriend Likes Questionable Pictures on Instagram– Should I Be Worried?
Long story short, he's been liking some questionable pictures that this other woman (whom he knows irl) posts. In one of the pictures he liked, she's
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •