Ok, I have a 3rd date schedule for Monday, so what are 5 Things I should be discussing on the date?

Five good topics for the date to talk about. One good thing about our dates is that they have all been on WORK DAYS which takes off some of the pressure. So i would appreciate any kind of help in what to discussing for the 3rd date

BTW: this is my first 3rd date since the year of 2000.

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I will try to think of some things that don't seem scripted.

Give us the background on the girl.

Past 2 dates.... personality... and such!

yeah, don't preplan this stuff.

Just go with the flow. If it gets awkward, ask about her life AND actually be interested in the response.

yeah, don't preplan this stuff.

 

Just go with the flow. If it gets awkward, ask about her life AND actually be interested in the response.

I agree. Just talk about your common interests and be interested in what she has to say. Most of all, just be yourself.

I guess i will talk about 2 fun topics, and maybe discuss her job and family so that's 4

She is from kansas City and she is SHY but opened up a little after the first date

As far as family.... what would you say?

Remember anything you ask her, you need to have an answer for the same question.

Ask her about her religious viewpoints, politics, her views on sex, and how much money she makes. That'll make for a memorable evening.

As far as family.... what would you say?

 

Remember anything you ask her, you need to have an answer for the same question.

How often you talk to your mom

Ask her about her religious viewpoints, politics, her views on sex, and how much money she makes. That'll make for a memorable evening.

Talking about your exes is a good icebreaker too.

Ask her about her religious viewpoints, politics, her views on sex, and how much money she makes. That'll make for a memorable evening.

I will lead up to a topic of INTIMACY but in a Non-creepy way.

As far as family.... what would you say?

 

Remember anything you ask her, you need to have an answer for the same question.

i think i will skip family and talk her job because I just realized I never asked her what she does for a living-lol So the Job is one topic

Has to be more rounded than that.....

Like: So what about your family? Are you a big family girl? Do you get to spend much time with your parents? (after her response... you mention how often you see yours...) Do you have siblings? (she'll probably answer yes sisters/brothers/possibly ages.) Then you can do the same.

See what I'm saying here? You may have already had this planned... You guys going to dinner? Can't ya go on a nature walk or an amusement park or something? Then there's not tons of talking and you can plan all these talks for date 4!

Why 5? Why not 4 or 6 or 10?

Just curious.

And I don't preplan, hard to be spontaneous and natural when I do.

Job is another good topic...

I still think family is good as well though. Often comes up in conversation when I get to know people. Besides - knowing how close a person is with family - tells alot about them - least I think...

Do you plan out all your conversations beforehand? It must be time consuming.

You can talk abot anything. If she is shy then you must ask questions and then follow-up questions. Music, movies, food, family, friends, travel, books...anything that she may seem interested in.

here's two

1. ask her about herself

2. ask her what makes her happy

I think you just need to talk to random people...strangers even...and just get comfortable being able to carry a normal conversation. They say you should "think before you speak" but not like this.

Call a 1-800 number and just tell her you want to talk

Can't ya go on a nature walk

just warn her not to wear heels.

Do you plan out all your conversations beforehand? It must be time consuming.

when you have the dating record I have and 33 is looking at me in the face, I have to PLAN. Not going to be a SCRIPTED convo, I just would like to already know what I'm going to focus on before i get there. To prevent any akrkward silence

Why 5? Why not 4 or 6 or 10?

 

Just curious.

 

And I don't preplan, hard to be spontaneous and natural when I do.

well 5 is a lot easier to remember than 10-lol So I have know 2 things I will dicuss and have to come up with 3 more

I thought you don't like talking about jobs on dates? Why do you get angry if they ask about yours but it's ok for you to ask about theirs? I'm confused...

Is this the girl you hadn't heard back from? Did you finally hear back fro her?

just warn her not to wear heels.

haha! Luv it!

I thought you don't like talking about jobs on dates? Why do you get angry if they ask about yours but it's ok for you to ask about theirs? I'm confused...

 

Is this the girl you hadn't heard back from? Did you finally hear back fro her?

No this is the girl i went out with TWICE in 3 days back in May before she went on vacation. And it's ok to talk about her job or mine now because it's the 3rd date. Not a first phone call. Like i have a new girl calling me tonight and i don;t want to discuss her job at all because I may not even want to meet her after talking for about 20 min. So the job stuff is for later on

^^And it's Thursday. Which is only one day from Friday. Which is the last day of the week. = = = > No talk about work over the phone first convo's.... (I disagree but just razzin ya CD..)

So what are you going to do for your date?????