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Thread: Should I tell my stepsister that I want to sleep with her?

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    Elof Valantor
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    Should I tell my stepsister that I want to sleep with her?

    I hope this is the right forum. I had a hard time figuring out where to post this. If I should have put this elsewhere could a moderator kindly move it for me. Thanks.

    Now, some of you will think this is wrong and evil, some wont, but there we go.

    Simply put I really fancy my stepsister (no blood relation). It's a completely sexual attraction. I've no interest in a relationship - she isn't my type. That doesn't stop her being incredibly attractive, and I would really like to sleep with her. I'm wondering whether or not to tell her and see what happens, and how I would tell her if I decided to. I'd like some views from other people on it.

    I realise saying anything could be risky and potentially damaging, which is probably the main reason why I'm seeking some views from other people.

    To help give you an understanding of the situation I'll explain a few things. Firstly, we hardly ever see each other. I'm at Uni and don't go home often. When I do go home I'll see my dad for an evening or a day, of which I might see my stepsister for an hour or so. She's 22 and I'm 20. As far as I'm aware she has never thought of me in any way other than as a stepbrother, so I imagine any confession from me would be a complete surprise. I can trust her to keep it quiet if I should say anything I think. You can never be certain though. We were weren't brought up together either. I've only known her since my dad starting seeing her mum (a few years). They're married now so she's my stepsister. We really don't know much about each other. We'll talk a bit if we're both visiting but that's about it.

    Like I said, it's purely a sexual attraction.

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    Well , i dont think your a bad person or evil. I have had a friend who had the same thing come up to him, and he went ahead and asked, she took it very badly, and he cant live it down.

    Women sometime seem to think of a stepbrother as a real brother, and so think nothing will happen between them.

    If it is something you need to get off your chest i suggest sitting down and talking to her about it, maybe start out and tell her you think shes attractive.

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    No, you should not.

    You could throw a lighted match into a gasoline storage tank though. That might cause a little less damage.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DN [Register to see the link]
    No, you should not.

    You could throw a lighted match into a gasoline storage tank though. That might cause a little less damage.
    ah, well said.

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    NO NO NO!!! You say this is just a sexual attraction and nothing more, so why disrupt your whole family just for that?

    She will probably be both upset and horrified by this. And what is she supposed to do about it? Once she knows, trot off to the bedroom and have sex with you and then never speak of it again and act like nothing happened?

    This would make things EXTREMELY and perhaps permanently awkward between the two of you. The world is full of women you can be attracted to and have sex with so you don't have to act on this with her.

    There's an old expression that says a bird shouldn't soil its own nest. Your family is your nest, and you have to return there and don't want to do anything that might disrupt family relations. It just isn't worth it, and odds of her actually having sex with you and agreeing to that are VERY small.

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    Sorry dude, but I think the above post is right. This has a high risk of causing weirdness and awkwardness in your family. The odds are very low that your step sister wants to have a sex fling with you and even if she did, it would probably gross out your dad and her mom.
    DO NOT SAY ANYTHING TO HER!!!!

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    I agree strongly with BestrongBehappy!

    Nothing good can ever come of this situation.

    Leave it be.

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    Yep, a "friend" of mine used to say "don't poo where you eat."

    This is a TERRIBLE idea. At best you get one time sex with your stepsister, at worse she never feels comfortable around you again. Worth it? NO WAY!

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    This can only go badly.

    If you tell her - and she is disgusted by the suggestion, you have to see her everytime you go home and at every family function - and it's going to be really awkward.

    If you tell her - and she's up for it, and you have sex, and then dump her - you'll have to see her everytime you go home and at every family function - and it's going to be really awkward.

    You should not look for a sexual escapade within your immediate family. Blood relation or not - this is someone you're going to have to maintain somekind of relationship with for a long long time. This is the one person you can definitely NOT "just have sex" with - and then never see again.

    Keep this one to yourself, dude.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DN [Register to see the link]
    No, you should not.

    You could throw a lighted match into a gasoline storage tank though. That might cause a little less damage.
    I concur as well.

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