Hey guys, I really need to talk to someone about this. I haven't been able to bring it up with anyone. I've been dating my boyfriend for the past 3 and a half months. He's a great guy, so sensitive, so sweet, is crazily in love with me. I couldn't ask for more. When we first started going out, I realized that he seemed rather feminine, but as I've been falling in love with him, I stopped noticing it at all. In the last couple of weeks, I've gotten even closer to him and then I started obsessing over the traits again. It's left me feeling horribly confused about his gender, his sexuality. I was reading up on straight men with effeminate traits and one guy said that straight men who are effeminate were "woman trapped in men's bodies." After reading that I started obsessing over the chance that he could be transgendered. When I'm with him, I keep on imagining he's a woman. Oh, it's been awful! And I absolutely adore him and everything else has been so perfect. His femininity lies mostly in the way he speaks and his hand gestures. He's very "soft" in nature, he always very delicately touches me. He's almost dainty. I just don't know what to think anymore and I have no idea how to even bring it up with him. I think he would be horribly offended if I did ask him about this. Earlier on the subject of gays and lesbians came up without me bringing it up and he clearly stated that he's never wanted to be with men and I believe him. The transgendered issue on the other hand really concerns me. I'm a very open and accepting person, so know that I take this all very seriously. I'm just in need of some good advice.