Thinking of booking a pornstar

Ok, so while on the net, I found out you can "book" pornstars. And to be completely honest, this got me more than a little excited.

The problem is I have a gf and we have been together for almost 4 yrs now. A few of her girl friends have broken up with thier SOs because they want to experience things. She always says she's waiting for me to do that.

I don't want to lose her, but I don't know how to handle this.

A) DO i tell her about this and how I want to do it, basically ask her permission?

B) Try and hide it from her, and hope she doesn't find out?

C) Break up with her, give some other reason and do it, and then hope when I come back that she'll be ok with it?

Thoughts?

She will never be ok with it after the realisation you dumped her to "book" a pornstar.

The fact that you're even considering doing that tells me your relationship is'nt that solid and you probably should just not be with her anyway. You should'nt mess with someones heart like that.

It is solid, but she has been my first and only, and I dunno I feel like i need to experience more before I can get married and such. Like i know I love her and want to end up with her, I have this hope that she'll be ok with swinging after a little while, but chicks are different with that thing, they get emotional about it, guys just do it and don't really think.

never ask permission...beg for forgiveness

Is a porn star more important to you than your girlfriend? I'm confused... Why have you been in a relationship for 4 years if you're willing to break up with her for a porn star?

I am not sure what "booking" a porn star means. If it's like hiring a stripper, I guess you could throw a birthday party for a friend and use that as an excuse.

Still though... I find it troubling that you refer to your 4-year relationship as the "problem" in this situation. You might want to take a break for a while or something.

No, I hate to tell you.. If you're even have the smallest bit of thought in your mind about this your relationship isn't as solid and stable as you think! Nobody is going to be ok with you breaking up with them to screw a pornstar (a prostitute) and then running back to them for the stable relationship.

Book a porn star? Are you independently wealthy? I doubt you are really getting a pornstar, probably a paid amatuer.

What is this for? For sex? For a private show?

If my husband did that he wouldn't have to worry about how to break it to me beacuse i'd break it off with him in a heartbeat.

Just even having the mindset that this is a cool thing to do is a dealbreaker for most women. I would not ever date a man who thought this was a good idea.

I think you need to share ALL of this with her now before she is more vested in this relationship. She needs to know firsthand that you want to swing and hire pornstars. Let her make a fair decision for herself so she can get out of this before she is more engrained in the relationship. If i were her i'd get the heck out of this and fast if i knew this was what you had in mind. Not many people are okay with swinging and if she has never let on that she would like this then you can bet she is going to be very very hurt. It is not just women who get emotional about this - MANY men would be against swinging and hiring pornstars. They might all be "guys" and like to look but this is WAY WAY beyond viewing a porn vid.

Dont' sell all men short.

It's not "the" problem, but I want to do this, and then i dont' want to lose her at the same time. I am scared that if I don't "experience" other girls etc. then i'll be upset later in life, or worse give in at a worse time like after we are married etc.

It's not "the" problem, but I want to do this, and then i dont' want to lose her at the same time. I am scared that if I don't "experience" other girls etc. then i'll be upset later in life, or worse give in at a worse time like after we are married etc.

common fear...get it out of the way before you get married

You only give in if you don't care about the other person. I can almost guarantee if you break up with her for this , she won't be there for when you come running back.

Poor girl.. I feel bad for her

never ask permission...beg for forgiveness

methinks you will have a hard time with relationships midnight with this mindset.

Especially since you want a pure woman who cooks lots of breakfasts and takes the kids to church!

Umm...that's hypocritical man but you are a smart guy, you know that.

^ What does booking a porn star involve?

Is there touching involved?? I need details.

common fear...get it out of the way before you get married

I know it's common, and she knows it too. It's like she expects me to do it. But like I said I want to go about it the best way possible. I thought telling her would be a better idea than hiding it and then getting caught, at least im honest with her

It's normal to be curious about what its like outside of a relationship HOWEVER what isn't common and normal is to actually go through with it. If you want to do this, do it! But be sure to break up with her but also don't expect her to be there for when you come running back.

methinks you will have a hard time with relationships midnight with this mindset.

 

Especially since you want a pure woman who cooks lots of breakfasts and takes the kids to church!

 

Umm...that's hypocritical man but you are a smart guy, you know that.

that is what my married friends tell me....I would never book a porn star since i have already met a famous one at a club....so i am now looking for another famous star--June Cleaver

booking a star means you pretty much get to do whatever you want for an hour with her

booking a star means you pretty much get to do whatever you want for an hour with her

that has to be thousands of dollars.......

that is what my married friends tell me....I would never book a porn star since i have already met a famous one at a club....so i am now looking for another famous star--June Cleaver

GOod luck with that midnight. LOL

i THINK june cleaver passed away man.

that has to be thousands of dollars.......

it's anywhere from 1000-2000 an hour

booking a star means you pretty much get to do whatever you want for an hour with her

Tell your girlfriend most definitely, and then expect to find your underooos cut into wee tiny pieces and your balls possibly NOT where you last left them...No longer attached.

And i hate to break it to you but the only swingers i have ever met are in their upper 40s and 50s. You rarely see young people do this.

Its just like with nudist colonies...the ones you might want to see rarely go. Its the ones who should be covered up who like them so much...

Food for thought. LOL

That may sound harsh, but it REALLY seems like you don't care about her (especially after four years). It also seems like you resent women/girlfriends because they don't want to be walked all over. What kind of "experiences" did her friends get upset about? Cliff diving: no, that's ok. Sleeping with four strippers and a donkey: not acceptable.

If you want to experience things, just experience them and leave that poor girl alone. It may hurt her now, but it will save her a world of hurt later on. You can do what you need to do and she can find someone who respects her.

Here's to experiencing Chlamydia!

*I'm kidding there

it's anywhere from 1000-2000 an hour

is it really worth it?

and you say it's "like" she expects you to do it...that doesn't mean that gives you permission to pay for sex!

Tell your girlfriend most definitely, and then expect to find your underooos cut into wee tiny pieces and your balls possibly NOT where you last left them...No longer attached.

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it's anywhere from 1000-2000 an hour

geesh. money well spent no doubt.

not.

You have this kind of money to waste? Must be nice. Well not really, i wouldn't waste it on that even if i pee'd out dollar bills.