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Thread: "I was raped" T-shirt

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    I wouldn't wear it. If it helps her, great. But I think a lot of people will take it in the wrong way. As others have said, I think it screams out that she's a victim. She's identifying with her victim role.

    What really bothers me about it is that the t-shirt may seem to be an invitation to some would-be rapists. The safe is over the breast area. I could see a guy saying to himself, "hmmm, nice * * * * , she was raped once, and she's flaunting it, maybe she liked it, maybe I can do her too." I think it might generate a lot of unwanted attention. Maybe that's the point, to create some sort of public dialog.

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    Originally Posted by Excalibur

    People not inclined to deal with open, gaping wounds - are simply going to take pity on the person wearing the shirt, not take it as a statement. They're going to pity the plight if she endured the crime, but they're going to avoid the mindset that encourages awareness of her victimization in public.
    At least it points out that there is an open gaping wound. And believe it or not that is important. It makes people uncomfortable and that is important to. Sometimes something like that out of context is what people need to see. Its way to easy to ignore rape. And although I think this might be a little tasteless it is at least trying.

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    I just checked out the webpage just now. I think the person probably thinks they are doing a good thing (and making some money while) but will mature and learn

    A little off topic here but I want to add this:
    the shirt is $25 total.
    $5 is being donated to some woman's charity
    shipping and handling is included in price - could be about $5 value
    Profit - can't be less than $10 a shirt I would think

    thereforeeee the value of the shirt, including shipping from the factory located in a third wold country is $5.00!
    Sweatshop labour perhaps. More than one way to victimize someone i think

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    Wow that is a big jump. What is that saying about assuming?

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    Originally Posted by rosephase
    Wow that is a big jump. What is that saying about assuming?
    Do you mean me? if so, it's just a theory - however it wouldn't surprise me one bit if the t-shirt was produced overseas in poor factory conditions. Most places that sell items that are fairly produced make mention of it somewhere - this page does not. Plus the price reflects the possibility of that being the situation.
    I may be wrong - I hope I am.

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    speaking of rape and sweat shops...watch the movie Bordertown...its based on true events in Juarez Mexico where over 5000 woman have been raped and murdered...

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    Originally Posted by Excalibur
    Being raped is not a crime....but it does carry with it a stigma of psychological and emotional baggage.

    It'd be equivalent to wearing a t-shirt stating "My 4 babies have different dads".
    While I agree completely with your first statement, I don't agree with your second -- it's not a correct analogy, since rape is not under your control. Someone having 4 babies with different fathers is still an act (or acts) of volition. In one case, you are a victim, in the other you have made some choices ultimately (even if you have a victimized past that led you there.)

    I haven't read through the whole thread, but wanted to add my half cent.

    I thank god have not been raped, it's every woman's worst nightmare of violation. And I would need everyone in my life to rally around me, support me, demonstrate their unwavering ability to listen to me and let me tell my story, cry and grieve for the heinousness of what happened. But that is something I'd need to do in the safety and trust of my closest allies and confidentes. That is not something I could share with the whole world -- and nor would I want to.

    I would like to support any woman who feels better doing that, if it gives THEM a sense of empowerment. Who am I to judge? But I can't help but find myself a bit mortified with this approach. I don't think this is the right way to "open the dialogue", personally. It just is a self-branding thing, and I think it would garner shock, pity, lurid aversion and has an almost confrontational tenor to it. It's like saying, "I was violated in the most private and hellish of ways -- NOW WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY TO THAT??!" Most passersby have only compassion for it, but there is nothing to do or be able to give but regretful pity for a total stranger who announces that. And I don't want pity.

    Women's advocacy, speaking, lecturing, doing work in the trenches with sex offenders as well as women at crisis intervention...making a documentary, organizing to raise funds, etc....talking to young people about such things so that they protect themselves and young men are aware of the impact of this crime on women....these are the ways one can "open the dialogue". I don't need to be a "card carrying Victim of Rape" to prove something about dialogue.

    But I do understand very personally, due to some things I've suffered, the need to shock people into awareness about taboo, hidden pains and scars. There's a place for that (I choose art, among others) -- but one must be discriminating in this, and choose a receptive audience, not just "attack" back in this way.

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    What makes it easy to ignore rape, pedophilia, and other topics of uncomfortable types is bringing up the topic - in a public way - that sparks opinions without accurate information. My point is that "I was raped" on a shirt is giong to cause discussion yes - but not an informed nature, but more of a prejudice type. That is going to futher decrease the accurate awareness of the crime, and th eproblem in general.

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    I agree with Excalibur.

    I don't think the discussion would open about rape with such a t-shirt. The discussion would open more about the wearer of the shirt, and not in a good light. I think the last thing someone who has suffered rape should open themselves to is people thinking that they are in some way attention-getting exhibitionists (!)

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    Thanks so much for all of the replies!!!

    I know I wouldn't wear the T-shirt, but if it makes a person feel good, then I don't really mind.

    People had good points about parents out with their children. And about other victims also, how they might feel.

    If I saw someone wearing a shirt like that, I could feel any range of emotions.

    Especially if I never saw this on the news, if I didn't know the intentions behind the shirt were good.

    I might think it's a cruel joke. Like, "Ha,Ha, I was raped ( not really )"!
    I might think it was making fun of rape victims.

    I don't know, it's a weird shirt to wear. I wouldn't want the whole world knowing something so......so personal.

    If there was a "Support rape victims" day. Then I'd probably wear it. Because then no one would know whether or not I was a rape victim/survivor. They might just suspect I'm supporting a cause.

    Aside from helping a victim who feels like wearing it...I don't see how the shirt will help.

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