he sent me an email

He sent me an email this morning, saying that he was sick all day yesterday, and that's why he didn't call. He said if he is feeling better later today, that maybe he'll call.

What a liar!!! OMG!!!

I'm putting his stuff in a box today, and having it delivered to his place! I don't want to see his lying face or hear his lying voice!!! I am so done with this jerk!

I ripped up cards and letters last night. I didn't get any sleep. I kept seeing his face, kissing that girl, over and over again.

My eyes and face are so swollen from crying. There is no way I'm letting this jerk hurt me ever again! No way!

I deleted his email of lies. I am closing that email account right now, so he cannot send me anymore crap!

I've blocked him on messenger too!

Are you not going to tell him you know?

Based on your thread yesterday, you already know he is a liar and cheater, don't let him manipulate you, it's time to look after yourself and move on.

We are here for you.

Hugs, Rose

I'm going to put a note in his stuff.

I seriously cannot talk to him right now...I need to stay away from him so that my love for him doesn't make me do something stupid that I'll just really regret later.

don't let him manipulate you

Thanks. I really don't want to be anywhere near him, because I know that I might cave...and I cannot risk that. I need to stay far, far away from him!

Its upto you what you do, I think eventually confrontation (for lack of a better word) and closure may be needed on both ends, and some questions may need to be answered.

Right now look after you, you owe him nothing. I'm really sorry you're going through this.

I don't trust him to tell me the truth about any of it. When his family finds out, and they will eventually, he is going to be in deep water. They are really against cheating. They're very old fashioned that way.

The girl probably doesn't even know about me...and if she does, well, what goes around comes around!

Maybe someday I'll want to talk with him, but I don't see that happening.

I wouldn't be able to 'not' confront him.. but that's me. I'd want the facts etc. However, how likely is he to tell the truth either. Pity you didn't take a photo or something.

Its upto you what you do, I think eventually confrontation (for lack of a better word) and closure may be needed on both ends, and some questions may need to be answered.

 

Right now look after you, you owe him nothing. I'm really sorry you're going through this.

I agree with this.... eventually a conversation may need to happen... but for right now you may just need to let him know that you know the truth, and you need to separate yourself from him completely and heal because you are very hurt. I feel deeply for you hun... I've been in your shoes before... and it hurts

It is absolutely unbelievable to see something like that with your own eyes. But you sound very strong so far... you will get through this.

I think he'd lie. Why would he tell the truth? Even if he did tell me the whole truth, how could I possibly believe anything that comes out of his mouth now?

I'm going to get tested for STDs on Monday. I'm not taking any changes. This may not be the only time he has done this

I feel like I'm in self-protection mode or something.

It is absolutely unbelievable to see something like that with your own eyes.

Yeah...but I'm so glad I did. If someone had told me, I'm not sure I would have believed it.

He can't deny it when you've seen it, don't let him try to persuade you you're wrong, if you know you are not.. Sending him a note like you say is a good idea. What will you say? have any thoughts?

 

I feel like I'm in self-protection mode or something.

That's exactly what happens... amazing how the body/brain works really. When I found out about my ex I got this energy and strength from nowhere that helped me make my decision, pack my bags, stay in a hotel alone in a strange country for a few nights until somebody came to help me. I was devastated but the energy just appeared from nowhere. It's only now really I've allowed myself to 'grieve' a bit

I got this energy and strength from nowhere that helped me make my decision

that's how it is

I'm afraid that if I let myself be really sad, that I'll be really vulnerable and I won't do what's right for me. I can't let that happen.

I need some space away from him.

I don't trust him to tell me the truth about any of it. When his family finds out, and they will eventually, he is going to be in deep water. They are really against cheating. They're very old fashioned that way.

 

The girl probably doesn't even know about me...and if she does, well, what goes around comes around!

 

Maybe someday I'll want to talk with him, but I don't see that happening.

The family will probably never know he cheated. He will hide that from them too. But this isn't your problem, is it? And I think a note is being too nice. I would probably send him a black rose with the package.

I would probably send him a black rose with the package.

ha ha!

My brother suggested I include a fish from the market!

ha ha!

 

My brother suggested I include a fish from the market!

This is all well and good but don't stoop to his level. It only makes you look bitter and sad. So far you are handling yourself with dignity- try to keep it that way.

How long were you with him, and how old are you guys?

ha ha!

 

My brother suggested I include a fish from the market!

That should get the message accross.

his stuff is packed, it's ready to go...but I feel confused about sending a note or not.

does he deserve to know that I know?

in a way, I think he should have to sweat it out, and face what he has done

Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing that he hurt you.

Disappear without a trace.

He is effectively dead to you.

I'm heading out to send it off right now. I'm not including the note.

I'm heading out to send it off right now. I'm not including the note.

Good. I'm glad you are the type of girl who isn't going to be messed around wtih. Thank goodness you saw it with your own eyes. What I don't understand is why you didn't say hello to them. How did you resist that?

How did you resist that?

I don't know.

I felt so messed up by what I saw...I needed to get out of there.

My heart was pounding and I couldn't breathe...I needed some air.

I felt like I was going to pass out.

I just wanted to come home, and calm down.

Probably the best thing.