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    caasiopia68
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    Why do I like to make my girlfriend feel bad?

    I have a confession to make.
    Ok like tonight, I texted my girlfriend and asked her if she could talk. She said no. I reply, over dramatically, with "fine". I guess I intentionally try to make her feel bad.
    I feel bad sometimes after I do it but I guess sometimes it is comforting and I like something about it.
    I feel so selfish and nasty thinking about this.
    Maybe it makes me feel secure if I see that she cares about me.

    Is this common or am I just a freak?

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    no its common i used to do it. its a power thing.......sometimes its sexy when you hurt a girls feelings, makes her show a side of her that seems loving in a sick and twisted way

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    Yeah until she leaves you because you treat her like crap...

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    Quote Originally Posted by etoile28 [Register to see the link]
    Yeah until she leaves you because you treat her like crap...
    Lol..true.

    it is normal, I agree with the fact that when you do pull the little guilt trips, that it makes your girl show a side of her that makes you feel secure, because she shows that she is concerned as to why your upset.
    However, there is certainly a flip side to that coin, if you keep it up, she won't be around to make you feel anything, so try to keep things cool, and avoid this habbit.

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    omg i used to do this with my bf and he couldn't understand why.

    we broke up.

    take it from me, stop doing it NOW!

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    Quote Originally Posted by etoile28 [Register to see the link]
    Yeah until she leaves you because you treat her like crap...
    Agree 100% people get fed up and then they bounce to find someone else who doesnt like to put them down.

    There is a difference between having your feelings hurt by her not wanting to text and then trying to bring her down. I think its a little normal to react like that but just be careful.

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    Ok. Cool. I don't do it too often. But I'll try to keep it to a minimum.
    Thanks.

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    I'd try to stop this behavior. Intentionally making her feel bad is counterproductive if you aren't trying to work something out. Read the previous posters responses, didn't work out for a lot of them.

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    Yea, but why do I enjoy it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by extinction [Register to see the link]
    You asked her if she wanted to text with you. She said "no". You felt rejected so you hit back by being nasty. You felt like you "got even with her" for rejecting you. It's a power thing. Whoever has their hand on top of the bat wins.
    I could'nt agree more, it's a sense of pride, but like I tell anyone involved in a relationship, keep pride out of it.

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