I'm feeling a little lost, but maybe not in the sense I once thought. I need things to fill my time, and a few new souls to meet doing something we all enjoy doing collectively.
My ex-girlfriend left just before Christmas 2007 after 8 years together. While I do not know what she is doing with her time on a daily basis, I was notified rather harshly by her friend that she is dating a new person. The issue I have with this is that she has someone she can talk to, and spend time with if she doesn't have any other activities to fill her time. Meanwhile, I'm left with the pieces.
I'm 28 and I moved to Toronto two years ago and due to work and trying to spend time with the ex, I didn't do anything for my own well-being or spare time. Sure, I tried to get out and do things, but it never happened because I felt like I would be excluding her. So I never got my "socializing" needs met, and I should have. I made a move to this city not only for the job, but to become more out-going. I met a small group of people from work who I spend time with occasionally. Right now though, I do not have an office job. You may think of that as wonderful, and in some ways it is, however, I find that you pay with the lack of a social life.
Now I'm in a situation where I don't want to monopolize friend's time (most of whom live within an hour's drive of me), moping about a failed relationship if we aren't doing something fun or productive, and I do not want to stay home alone either. I also do not want to be bored, sitting on the computer surfing aimlessly day in and day out. I simply wish to move on with my life and try my best to heal from this breakup and at the same time gain some new friends with whom I don't have to think about the breakup with.
People have advised me to pick up a hobby now that my free time is my own. Well, I don't know what I want to do! I especially would like to find something that you can do in groups, as my ultimate goals are to have a decent social circle and meet someone new. I want to make friends not just acquaintances.
Were you ever in my situation? What did you do to combat the loneliness? What did you to do map out your time effectively? What can I do right now this winter that is enjoyable either outside or in? How did you discover a new hobby, passion, etc? Are you surprised at the new activity? Was there any activities that you would stay away from?
I should also say that I would like to meet new people, male and female alike, around my age, for any activities really. If anyone is up for a chat or an actual coffee or anything of the sort from the Toronto area, let me know.
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