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Thread: I want to date a white boy!(Do they like black girls?)

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    NotSoPlainJane
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    I want to date a white boy!(Do they like black girls?)

    Lately, I have been very attracted to white boys. I have never dated one before, and there's one I like in particular, but I don't know how to go about it. I've always dated black or brown men, who have complete different personalities from white men- in my experience.
    My last boyfriend, who was the first man I ever loved, dumped me in December, close to my birthday. Everytime I see a black man, I want to run the other way because they remind me of how cruel theycan be. Now, I find myself looking at men who are completey opposite looking- white men.
    Thing is, I know the "rules" when it comes to dealing with black guys, but white guys personalities are soooo different. How do I go about approaching one? Any advice would be appreciated.

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    coming from a white girl talking about a black man your post might run the risk of sounding racist, but that's by-the-by.

    I can't see that colour of the skin dictates behaviour in any way. Culture will do, and granted certain ethnicities will be accustomed to doing different things - so really what you're worrying about is 'are you going to be able to adapt to his culture' and 'is he going to be able to adapt to yours'?

    Simple answer is that it changes from person to person. You can't (and shouldn't) generalise people by the colour of their skin because everyone is different.

    I'd say if this white guy likes you, you have things in common, and you're attracted to eachother there's no reason not to give it a shot.

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    You know not all black guys are cruel!! i don't think there are "rules" to dating a black guy... Sheesh.. my man is black and guess what i am... im oriental... most of the guys i been with are black and yes they are what you call it "GHETTO" as ever but they aint no rules at all. I think you should get that thought outta your head first!

    I see alot of mixed couples! White dudes do date black girls and vice versa...

    I mean if you want to date a white guy just because he would treat you better than a black guy... thats your opinion but i think its really silly how your almost stero-typing black and white guys. yes they are different... but im sure they would treat girls the same way.

    If you wanna approach this white dude you feeling, just start up a conversation with him... be yourself.. because you will probably be different to other girls that he has spoken to and you might ignite an interest in him about you!

    ask him for the time or something! lol im sure you will be fine!!

    Good luck!

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    I'm a black guy and I find this highly offensive. I wonder what will happen if you have a bad experience with a white guy. Will your view of them be tainted as well? You're reducing your chances of finding happiness with such warped and skewed generalisations. I'm not knocking your preferences, but basing your selection on one bad experience is not logical. ANYONE can treat you badly, independent of race.
    Last edited by Alex Kidd; 02-08-2008 at 05:41 AM.

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    If she had a bad expereince with a white guy it would be the same, that is just how people are.. Like if she were on a plane crash and survived, she would prabably dislike flying from that day on.. But that dosnt make flying dangerous. I am white myself, and if she disliked going out with white guys I would not care at all.. I do not see how it is offensive.

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    It's a bit harsh to call her a racist. So what if she run the other way when she sees a black guy? I'm sure there are tons of good ones here and everywhere else... but that does not mean that she's going to meet him any time soon. Funny how the word "racism" only refers to anyone who is not white these days. It can work the other way too you know. You can't even say "I don't like him at all" if all you do is hate his personality but he's black.

    Don't worry about it hun! I believe awhile ago someone made a thread in which they said that they're white and are only attracted to black girls... so don't worry about it!
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    Jane-

    I agree, you have every right to have your preferences, and it doesn't make you rascist.

    I go through phases of liking men of certain backgrounds, just because I find them more fascinating.

    I think you should give it a shot, everyone has their preferences, why not try it out, and see if a guy that you have interest in feels the same way.

    Hugs, Rose

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    The statement that would maybe cause offense to you Magic Toilet is if a black guy said he disliked going out with white girls, not if she said she disliked going out with white guys (as that's not looking at things as I'm looking at them). Hope that makes sense.

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    Whoever said the OP was white? Why would she ask if white guys liked black girlsif she was white? And I'm sorry, but how can it be racist if she is talking about men that are the same race as her?

    Anyways, even if she is white, it isn't racist. She says when she sees a black man it remind her of how a black bloke hurt her? Thats not racist, its taking a visual similarity and putting it to a memory? Her avoiding black men is her fear of bieng treated the same. So can we all stop taking offense like small children.

    Now, no, not all black men are the same. But then neither are all white men. And I don't think the rules are a lot different, I've dated white and black guys and its all the more or less the same. The only difference is in upbringing, if you date a white guy and black guy who grew up on the same street on a council estate, having the same friends, hanging out with the same people, that you'll get treated similar by the two of them. And probably the same if you dated a white doctor and then a black doctor. I'm not sure if this makes sense or if anyone reads this the way I wrote it, but I'm trying here. lol

    And yes, some white guys do like black girls.
    Last edited by Flux; 02-08-2008 at 07:10 AM.

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    Quote Originally Posted by State of Flux [Register to see the link]
    Whoever said the OP was white? Why would she ask if white guys liked black girlsif she was white? And I'm sorry, but how can it be racist if she is talking about men that are the same race as her? .
    State of Flux, take your time to read what I wrote again. You'll see in my second post I refer specifically to Magic Toilet's comment. Peace.

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