ashley001 Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 months and while we're cuddling/making out he'll say, "Hey, sit on my lap"...I've thrown my legs over his legs (with my butt still on the seat), but he wants my butt on his legs/crotch area... i don't have a problem with sitting on his legs, but here's the thing, he's probably 110 lbs...if that...and super skinny (he's a runner and works out hardcore)...and i'm about 140 (pretty average size girl with a little meat on her bones...)...i will admit to being self-conscious...I haven't done it yet because I don't want to crush him or be super heavy on his lap...I'm a little inexperienced in this, and I want to sit on his lap, i just don't want to crush him... anyone else been through this situation? or guys, what if your girl was 30 pounds heavier than you? would she be crushing you? Link to comment
Portage Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 I personally think he loves you and every aspect of you. If he wants you to sit on his lap i'm more than positive he can handle you and your wee bit of extra weight. After all, he isn't fragile, he just wants to get closer to his woman. Link to comment
Jayar Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 Honestly, I'm gonna go the other way from OLG and say this is precisely why I can't date a man who doesn't have at least 50lbs on me. I TOTALLY feel your concern, and maybe it's a product of having been overweight before... Hell, I'm 110 and I'm still concerned every now and then even though my guys weigh in around 190 to 210. It's a pretty ingrained mental thing. I don't know what to say other than try it, but I certainly wouldn't be comfortable either. Link to comment
RedDelicious Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 If he's asking for it, it's because he can handle it. Guys are suckers for women's bums, specially on their laps. I bet he will be too turned on to pay attention to weight. If you are concerned about crushing him, just remember to put both of your legs on the floor, that way he will be carrying about two thirds of the weight instead of the whole lot. Link to comment
deleted-account Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 I'm a bigger guy, about 175, and I haven't been with a girl bigger than me but I'd say don't worry about it. I loved having all of my girls weight on me when we were laying around. You aren't going to crush him at 140 lbs and he really wants you on his lap so go for it. If it hurts he will say something. Link to comment
DN Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 It's his lap and he is probably Ok with it. If he goes "oof!" and can't speak while turning purple you should get off him fairly soon. Otherwise, don't worry about it. Link to comment
Kiwi_Sweet Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 He doesn't care about your weight. I think you care more about your weight than he ever will. Accept the love he is giving you a be happy. Link to comment
watupgangsta Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 im about 135 pounds and i have had a few girls sit on my lap who were heavier than me... honesty i think if you say you don't want to sit on his lap (from my experience) hes only going to become self-conscious about the fact that hes skinny. he can probably handle the weight i never had a problem with it. Link to comment
Entropy Smith Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 110lbs!? Someone get that boy a sandwhich...tell him no more running...squats and deadlifts...and eat alot of dead mammals, birds, and fish. Link to comment
shinx Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 I weigh about 110 and I've had a boyfriend weighing 150 sit on my lap or even lay on me and put all his weight on me and it doesn't bother me at all. It's only uncomfortable when too much weight is on my chest, cause then its a little hard to breathe, but all I had to do was ask him to move a bit and everything was fine. So don't worry about it. At worst, you might make him a little uncomfortable, you won't actually HURT him. So go for it, you've got nothing to lose and he is asking you for it. Link to comment
YeahOkWhateverIguess Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 here's one for ya.. im 5'8 and the love of my life is 5'5. I even wear heels.. Sometimes I get mad self conscious when I do that run/jump hug thing. Its funny for us now, but once you get your insecurities out in the open and you get more comfortable with yourself with HIM, you'll be fine. If you're insecure, so he will be too. fyi. Just enjoy this hun. Link to comment
SinfullySweet Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 I've always been a bit scared to put my weight on my boyfriend. He'll sit in my lap, but I've never sat in his. He's a good 6'2 and about 150-160 lbs and I'm 5'3 and about 107. He took me snowboarding and I was surprised he could hold my weight. I know that my fear is silly, but I certainly understand where you're coming from. I recently lost 20 lbs and it hasn't make me any more comfortable about sitting on my boy's lap. I'm sure if he's asked you to sit on his lap he is aware of your build and can handle it. Link to comment
BlondGuy Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 While my ex gf weighed less than me (she was 130 I was 165) I would often ask her to lay on my back and put pressure on me. For some reason I found this really relaxing and would almost fall asleep after a couples minutes of doing this. It soothed me. Link to comment
JeckyllNHyde Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 I wouldn't worry much. As DN said, if you are too heavy he WILL mention it. You can also tell him: tell me if I'm hurting you. Once/IF you do he will tell you. Chances are he will be enjoying you too much to care too. Link to comment
laboheme Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 You'll be fine! I've had people sitting on my lap who were considerably heavier than I am, and it didn't bother me at all, unless it was for a really long time. There are no vital organs to crush there, and the 30 pound difference is not enough to break bones. Plus, if he's a runner, his leg muscles will definitely be able to handle it. Hey, just recently, I had a guy not much bigger than me physically pick me up and pin me against a wall, no problem. So, no worries! Link to comment
Red Fox Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 I have had people heavier than my sit on my lap and it's not been uncomfortable. I wouldn't worry because the weight will be evenly distributed along his legs and is thereforeeee not likely to be uncomfortable. If you were to stand on him and lift one leg up and balance on your one heel, then all your weight would be pressing on a small area and it would probably be uncomfortable. But because all your weight is spread over the whole length and width of his legs there is no one small area which is taking all the weight - thereforeeee it is I think very unlikely for it to be uncomfortable for him. If you took 5lb of steel and made it flat so it covered a larger surface area it would still weigh the same as a 5lb piece of steel compressed into a small 3d cube. If you put the 5lb cube on your stomach it would feel heavier than the 5lb sheet because it's pressing on a smaller area - however they both weigh the same. It's the same kind of idea - your weight will be spread over an area and won't be as uncomfortable as you think - I suspect he'll think it's great. Link to comment
Delusional Kisses Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 There are many men out there that look for girls much bigger than them to do just that....sit on their laps, their faces...whatever. I am a big girl...not gonna give up my weight or anything, but if a guy asks me to sit on his lap or anything of that nature, he is very much aware of my weight (he does have eyes...he knows I'm large) and should expect a great deal of pressure on his legs....I haven't gotten a complaint from anyone that asked for it....lol. Link to comment
someguy88 Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 meh, you're sooooo not going to crush him. I sit on my gf all the time. I'm 170lb and she's 120lb. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 you will not crush him. he just wants some pelvis action with some booty rubbin. lol i remember i used to do the dead weight thing on my gf playing around. it was funny. i'm 210. she was fine. Link to comment
Bunney Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 I wouldn't worry about it, hun. Just go for it It really isn't a big deal. Link to comment
rootcause43 Posted February 7, 2008 Share Posted February 7, 2008 He can take it. Sit on his lap. Don't be self conscious about it. He's practically begging for you to do it. Link to comment
happywithher Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 honestly the biggest thing i see is that 140 isnt heavy weather or not he is small 140 isnt going to feel heavy nor will you crush and you will make his day if you do it Link to comment
ghost69 Posted February 8, 2008 Share Posted February 8, 2008 he will tell you if it hurts. trust me. Link to comment
coed_bunny Posted February 9, 2008 Share Posted February 9, 2008 Hey Ashley! Don't be at all concerned. 140 is NOT heavy and if you're like me with a little junk in the trunk don't be ashamed of it, work it! For some reason alot of guys are turned on by a womans rear end. He must love your backside or he wouldn't be itchin to get it in his lap. (No pun intended) Nobody wants a boney booty sitting on them..now that hurts! If I could I'd sit in my own lap!-->Sorry off the subject, but I don't care if he's only 80 lbs, you are not going to hurt that guy!! Link to comment
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