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    YeahOkWhateverIguess
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    here's one for ya.. im 5'8 and the love of my life is 5'5. I even wear heels.. Sometimes I get mad self conscious when I do that run/jump hug thing. Its funny for us now, but once you get your insecurities out in the open and you get more comfortable with yourself with HIM, you'll be fine. If you're insecure, so he will be too. fyi. Just enjoy this hun.

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    I've always been a bit scared to put my weight on my boyfriend. He'll sit in my lap, but I've never sat in his. He's a good 6'2 and about 150-160 lbs and I'm 5'3 and about 107. He took me snowboarding and I was surprised he could hold my weight. I know that my fear is silly, but I certainly understand where you're coming from. I recently lost 20 lbs and it hasn't make me any more comfortable about sitting on my boy's lap. I'm sure if he's asked you to sit on his lap he is aware of your build and can handle it.

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    While my ex gf weighed less than me (she was 130 I was 165) I would often ask her to lay on my back and put pressure on me. For some reason I found this really relaxing and would almost fall asleep after a couples minutes of doing this. It soothed me.

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    I wouldn't worry much. As DN said, if you are too heavy he WILL mention it. You can also tell him: tell me if I'm hurting you.
    Once/IF you do he will tell you. Chances are he will be enjoying you too much to care too.

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    You'll be fine! I've had people sitting on my lap who were considerably heavier than I am, and it didn't bother me at all, unless it was for a really long time. There are no vital organs to crush there, and the 30 pound difference is not enough to break bones. Plus, if he's a runner, his leg muscles will definitely be able to handle it.

    Hey, just recently, I had a guy not much bigger than me physically pick me up and pin me against a wall, no problem. So, no worries!

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    I have had people heavier than my sit on my lap and it's not been uncomfortable.

    I wouldn't worry because the weight will be evenly distributed along his legs and is thereforeeee not likely to be uncomfortable. If you were to stand on him and lift one leg up and balance on your one heel, then all your weight would be pressing on a small area and it would probably be uncomfortable. But because all your weight is spread over the whole length and width of his legs there is no one small area which is taking all the weight - thereforeeee it is I think very unlikely for it to be uncomfortable for him.

    If you took 5lb of steel and made it flat so it covered a larger surface area it would still weigh the same as a 5lb piece of steel compressed into a small 3d cube. If you put the 5lb cube on your stomach it would feel heavier than the 5lb sheet because it's pressing on a smaller area - however they both weigh the same. It's the same kind of idea - your weight will be spread over an area and won't be as uncomfortable as you think - I suspect he'll think it's great.

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    There are many men out there that look for girls much bigger than them to do just that....sit on their laps, their faces...whatever. I am a big girl...not gonna give up my weight or anything, but if a guy asks me to sit on his lap or anything of that nature, he is very much aware of my weight (he does have eyes...he knows I'm large) and should expect a great deal of pressure on his legs....I haven't gotten a complaint from anyone that asked for it....lol.

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    meh, you're sooooo not going to crush him. I sit on my gf all the time. I'm 170lb and she's 120lb.

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    you will not crush him. he just wants some pelvis action with some booty rubbin. lol

    i remember i used to do the dead weight thing on my gf playing around. it was funny. i'm 210. she was fine.

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    I wouldn't worry about it, hun. Just go for it It really isn't a big deal.

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