Ask For Advice
Results 1 to 10 of 10

Thread: he still defends his ex

  1. #1
    sleex
    Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    UK
    Age
    29
    Posts
    63
    Gender
    Female

    he still defends his ex

    my boyfriend of 2 yrs has maintained a friendship with his ex... which im okay with, i join them when they go out for coffee 1 a month now too.

    but his friends hate her... no idea why personally they ended on good terms, no fighting/cheating etc.

    but my bf gets mad when his friends diss her, he says its because theyre insulting his past, and that hes mad because they acted like they liked her when they were dating

    but i dont know... he seems to get very angry about it...

    why do you think he gets so pissed off when his friends diss his ex??? should i be worried he cant let go of the feeling to defend her?

  2. #2
    RealBrookeI
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Posts
    286
    Gender
    Female
    Quote Originally Posted by sleex [Register to see the link]
    my boyfriend of 2 yrs has maintained a friendship with his ex... which im okay with, i join them when they go out for coffee 1 a month now too.

    but his friends hate her... no idea why personally they ended on good terms, no fighting/cheating etc.

    but my bf gets mad when his friends diss her, he says its because theyre insulting his past, and that hes mad because they acted like they liked her when they were dating

    but i dont know... he seems to get very angry about it...

    why do you think he gets so pissed off when his friends diss his ex??? should i be worried he cant let go of the feeling to defend her?
    Sounds like he may simply have a level of respect for his past and for women.
    Do they disrespect any other women around you and he not do anything about it or is it that his friends only make a point of disrespecting her.

  3. #3
    sleex
    Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    UK
    Age
    29
    Posts
    63
    Gender
    Female
    mostly if her name ever comes up in a group conversation, they diss her. my boy doesnt say anything upfront, but sometimes he tells me how he doesnt understand why they hate her so much, and that she doesnt deserve it.

  4. #4
    RealBrookeI
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Posts
    286
    Gender
    Female
    Quote Originally Posted by sleex [Register to see the link]
    mostly if her name ever comes up in a group conversation, they diss her. my boy doesnt say anything upfront, but sometimes he tells me how he doesnt understand why they hate her so much, and that she doesnt deserve it.
    Any many ways this is a good thing as it has been said that your past is a reflection of you so obviously he thinks highly of the women that he dates.
    With that said who broke up with who and why?

  5. #5
    sleex
    Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    UK
    Age
    29
    Posts
    63
    Gender
    Female
    she initiated a "break" but the official break up was mutual

  6. #6
    RealBrookeI
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Posts
    286
    Gender
    Female
    Quote Originally Posted by sleex [Register to see the link]
    she initiated a "break" but the official break up was mutual
    How was it mutual? and How long ago did they "break up"

  7. #7
    sleex
    Member
    Join Date
    Nov 2006
    Location
    UK
    Age
    29
    Posts
    63
    Gender
    Female
    it was mutual because they both told me they were agreed to be friends, not lovers.

    and they broke up roughly 2 yrs ago.... so him and i started dating around 3 mths after they broke up

    they dated for 5 yrs

  8. #8
    RealBrookeI
    Bronze Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2007
    Posts
    286
    Gender
    Female
    Quote Originally Posted by sleex [Register to see the link]
    it was mutual because they both told me they were agreed to be friends, not lovers.

    and they broke up roughly 2 yrs ago.... so him and i started dating around 3 mths after they broke up

    they dated for 5 yrs
    Just because they both said it doesnt mean it,how old is he I see that you are 21.
    Odds are he probablly does still have some feelings for her but she doesnt for him so really it is a "non-issue" in regards to him cheating on you with her because she isnt interested.
    The real problem here though is you obviously know something is missing in the relationship that the two of you have since this has been an issue for you from the very start.

    What do you imagine your relationship wiith him would be like if she wasnt involved?

  9. #9
    Dako
    Platinum Member Dako's Avatar
    Join Date
    Oct 2005
    Location
    SoCal
    Age
    63
    Posts
    9,175
    Gender
    Male
    Thanked
    1
    Maybe he's friends with his ex. If you've followed that subject in threads on ENA, you know how controversial it is. People seem to prefer hatred for an ex.

  10. #10
    AngelEyez
    Gold Member
    Join Date
    Oct 2006
    Location
    Canada
    Age
    29
    Posts
    413
    Gender
    Female
    Well, maybe he hates people dissing the person he once chose to be his girlfriend. It's like telling the guy, "Hah, you dated her? You have bad taste." I'm sure he knows his ex-girlfriend long enough to understand who she was as a person. He had/has respect for her. Maybe she told him about her "rough past" and her "issues" and he feels sympathy for her. I wouldn't worry about it.

  11.  

Top Threads
I Slept With Someone Else During A Breakup
My boyfriend and I had been dating for a year. It was already a bumpy relationship with us being college freshman but being in love with each other
Help with ex girlfriend of almost 2 years
Hello guys, Im going to do a brief resume of my story. This girl, we started dating in high school, we dated for almost 3 years. We had a great
Unfriended ex, got blocked.
Well, long story short, my ex and I broke up about five months ago, it ended pretty bad, she cheated and off with someone else. At first I was
How do I overcome obsession on my girlfriend's ex?
Iím writing because I recognize now that Iím dealing with a really serious issue. I fell in love with this nice girl a while ago. When I met her, she
Having a tough time moving on
My boyfriend dumped me about 8 months ago. We've been together for almost 10 months. He said he couldn't see the relationship work in the long run
Ex boyfriend's wife keeps writing to me
I dated my second to last ex for three years from 2012 - 2015. He was... interesting. He showed me the world, because I encouraged him to follow

Featured Threads
Parent and relationships problems
So clearly i need help sooo i will get right into the story.....sorry its so long I am a 25 year old male who is in a relationship with my 19
My boyfriend is trying to date other woman on online dating site.
I really need help. I am so confused. My boyfriend is on online dating site. He said he wants to date other women. We were on and off relationship
My wife left me without having even a talk
Hi everybody, I wonder if this is normal just to leave a marriage of 7 years without having a proper talk before moving on? It happened to me that
Confused about FWB
Last weekend my FWB and I made plans to meet up. He drove down from his place to go to a party with friends, afterwards he was coming to spend the
Everything is just JUMBLED
I have an extremely, EXTREMELY screwed up life. At least from my point of view it is. At least I think I'm the only one that knows my own
Getting over someone to be with them again later?
Long story short, my ex broke up with me after 4 years because he said he was immature and needed to grow up without me and part of that was meeting
Need Advice - it's urgent for me
Hello Everyone, I meesed up my life and I take full responsibilty. I ned advice and what to do to remedy the situation immediately and prevent it
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •