I'm writing this only because I'm so appalled at my soon-to-be-ex's behavior that I needed some forum to talk about how horrified I am.
I should have expected no less, but my not-quite ex-husband has initiated a new relationship and is demonstrating the IDENTICAL behaviors that he did with me. I realize that what he is doing is sick, and that this is not a case of wanting him back or any sort of sour grapes....but it's demoralizing, and I feel like I am so replaceable....and irrelevant to our marriage.
He sucked some poor woman from Match into his awful game.....and is now in the process of replacing me with her (it's been less than four weeks since I left)---the part that rankles me is that he is telling her the same things he told me...."You are so unique and warm and special" ...."Everything between us is effortless and I can't believe how lucky I am to have you walk into my life" ...and then the kicker was....He sent her the poem that he wrote for me on our wedding day...verbatim. My stepdaughters are horribly confused and upset.....he insisted that they meet her today, on Christmas day...and included her in their dinner plans. My older stepdaughter called me crying and upset and at a loss as to how she's supposed to feel about this.
I know he's a narcissist and needs to have his supply in his daily diet, and i know how lucky I am to be free of this sick cycle....but it still hurts to see that I meant nothing to him. He still sends me emails telling me that he's 'broken-hearted" and will "never recover" from losing me, and that he has NO IDEA what broke us up....