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Thread: Ok, WHY would you avoid someone you like?

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    Ok, WHY would you avoid someone you like?

    I never will understand why a person would run away or hide from someone you are interested in romantically or at least are attracted to??? I always thought that it was a good thing to have a crush on someone. I want to be around them more actually...can you all please explain why all the hiding or avoidance? Thanks

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    I've done that before.

    If a person isn't ready to be involved, vulnerable, exposed, responsible or in tune with another person, they withdraw from intimate situations.

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    Maybe the person is really shy and is ashamed of their looks. Maybe they don't know what to say to their crush. I know for a few years I would freeze up around my crush. Or Maybe it goes deeper, their embarrased by something, like a personal trait or habit.

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    When you have feelings for someone you become vulnerable to them, and you feel like you are no longer in control of your emotions, because they become powerful triggers of your emotions. They can affect you, and if you're a control freak like me, then that's very unsettling to be so affected. It's when the universe reminds you that you're small, and that's scary.

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    Self preservation!!

    Ever seen "Love Actually"?

    Remember the guy who was secretly in love with Keira Knightly? he pretended to hate her.

    I think this is very common. who hasn't been scared poo-less around someone they like!

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    Well, i suppose it could be that both people have a crush on each other but one is fearful and just not ready, which in turn makes the other fearful that their own crush will get stronger and stronger and that the other person will never be ready/prepared/willing to see what happens

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    [QUOTE=bella2007;2025549]I never will understand why a person would run away or hide from someone you are interested in romantically or at least are attracted to??? I always thought that it was a good thing to have a crush on someone. I want to be around them more actually...can you all please explain why all the hiding or avoidance? Thanks

    Oh no! My post on Raiden's thread prompted this, didn't it?! ;-)

    It's insecurity and fear of rejection, plain and simple. We invest our self-worth in that person's eyes and if they don't view us as the most valuable thing, we want to go stick our heads in the sand...

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    Theyre afraid of rejection. I guess.

    Been there done that, many many times. More than likely I just didnt have the guts to put myself out there and get to the point where it comes down to yes or no from them. I dont take being judged well and I am afraid of being rejected.

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    Hmmm

    I used to avoid someone that I like because I was nervous and was afraid to face them.

    Now I feel I can talk and not avoid them.

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    Originally Posted by love4life
    Oh no! My post on Raiden's thread prompted this, didn't it?! ;-)

    It's insecurity and fear of rejection, plain and simple. We invest our self-worth in that person's eyes and if they don't view us as the most valuable thing, we want to go stick our heads in the sand...

    Well, those 2 are a good deal of what most people exprience, but I agree with Lucy Lou, when you like someone you do feel vulnerable and no longer really in control of your emotions. That person, pretty much is a powerful trigger of your emotions.

    (Sorry If I directally copied your words Lucy, I didn't know of another way to word them.)

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