Ask For Advice
Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Results 1 to 10 of 11

Thread: What do you talk about on the phone with your girlfriend?

  1. #1
    BoddenProBowler06
    Member
    Join Date
    Sep 2006
    Posts
    253
    Gender
    Male

    What do you talk about on the phone with your girlfriend?

    I just got a new girlfriend and we were both friends for the longest time. We would talk on the phone every now and then but usually not. Now that we're in a relationship, we try to call each other everyday but there is always awkward silences. We talk about how our days went, school, etc., but the convos end pretty quick and then I run out of things to say. Eventually I just make an excuse to get off because I don't like just wasting my time when no one is talking.

    Any tips? What do YOU people talk about on the phone with your significant other?

  2. #2
    Stu147

    Join Date
    Feb 2007
    Location
    England
    Posts
    277
    Quote Originally Posted by BoddenProBowler06 [Register to see the link]
    I just got a new girlfriend and we were both friends for the longest time. We would talk on the phone every now and then but usually not. Now that we're in a relationship, we try to call each other everyday but there is always awkward silences. We talk about how our days went, school, etc., but the convos end pretty quick and then I run out of things to say. Eventually I just make an excuse to get off because I don't like just wasting my time when no one is talking.

    Any tips? What do YOU people talk about on the phone with your significant other?
    I think you have identified the problem in what you wrote. You talk every day! Some people are happy just engaging in small talk, but some people aren't. And then come the akward silences.

    I would strongly suggest cutting back to calling each other every couple of days, or few days, and just texting here and there in between. That way there are a couple of days in between for interesting things to happen that you can talk about. It's rare that something interesting happens every day of the week, and once you've gotten to know everything about someone then you can run out of topics pretty fast. Once the conversation becomes forced then it's pretty much redundant.

    Hope this helps.

  3. #3
    Lana0120
    Platinum Member Lana0120's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2007
    Posts
    3,429
    Gender
    Female
    I've never subscribed to the theory that you have to talk for hours and hours on the phone in a relationship. You're putting pressure on yourself to talk, which is part of the problem. Don't worry about it so much. If you can't think of anything to talk about, it's okay to hang up after making suitable excuses!

  4. #4
    Mysterious Gurl
    Member Mysterious Gurl's Avatar
    Join Date
    Jan 2005
    Age
    28
    Posts
    799
    Gender
    Female
    Hey!

    I use to have the same problem, even on MSN there would be gaps in the convo but obviously on MSN you're not "umming and arring". We use to speak on the phone everyday too because we missed talking to each other. However I found just ringing every other day helped and talking on MSN more than the phone helped too.

    MGx

  5. #5
    Clementine orange
    Platinum Member Clementine orange's Avatar
    Join Date
    Aug 2006
    Location
    La Belle Province
    Posts
    3,590
    Gender
    Male
    Women talk, men listen. In my experience. I'm one of those many guys who hates telephone "conversations".

  6. #6
    Zackinlaw

    Join Date
    Dec 2006
    Location
    New Jersey, USA
    Age
    33
    Posts
    1,963
    Gender
    Male
    My new girlfriend and I talk about anything and everything on the phone. We talk about our day ... things that excite us, things that disappoint us. We also talk about random stuff ... sometimes deep, often silly. There is really no limit to the range of things we talk about because we find everything about the other fascinating in some way.

    The funny thing is ... she never really liked to talk long on the phone before with anyone ... but you'd never know it from the 4 or 5 hour conversations about absolutely everything and nothing that we have insanely into the wee hours of the morning.

    I guess what I'm saying is that if you are really into each other and in love, and are truly compatible, you will find things to talk about ... or maybe just enjoy hearing each other's voices.

    Zack.

  7. #7
    Daligal83
    Platinum Member Daligal83's Avatar
    Join Date
    Mar 2006
    Age
    33
    Posts
    3,755
    Gender
    Female
    Thanked
    7
    When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we'd play the question game. It was great because it let us get to know each other in a new way (we had been friends for over 3 years before we started dating) and because we were long distance and wanted to talk on the phone everyday. So you just take turns asking questions, but you have to answer the question that you ask. They can be silly, thoughtful, deep...anything you want. It's just a fun way to get the conversation going.

  8. #8
    JimmerJammer
    Gold Member
    Join Date
    Dec 2004
    Posts
    541
    I suppose it depends on a bunch of things as I, being the goofball that I am, can get a little discrete on the phone as I do it to be funny. Like start moaning on the phone so my gf is like what ARE you doing? I mean I know as adults we gotta be mature and serious, but jeez life is too short to be a prude all the time. I can be serious and I realize she might not think its funny, but if all I did was be boring and predictable all that would do is make the relationship comfortable and routine. Is that really enjoyable or what we do based on expectations of who we SHOULD be?

    And ya if I'm not talking about everyday stuff I usually try to find something else of relevance like if there was something troubling me or if I noticed something that urked me which I wanted to talk about with her. Like global issues or local ones or just even remembering abstract memories of things which I don't expect her to get or understand but I say them anyways. Sometimes there are moments of complete silence where neither of us says anything and it feels forced to make conversation and other times its like it takes no effort.

    Sometimes I'll tell stories or make references to something I read as a moment of wisdom or inspiration. Sometimes its just like I love you, no I love you, no IIII love you, etc. lol And other times I can just sit there watching something or playing a video game and just making random comments about how the game is pissing me off or how much butt I'm kicking in it. Lame? Maybe, but hey even if she laughs at me at least we're bonding.

    I might even give her some insight into how my character has formed over the years and what brought me to the place I am. Explaining how it is I run through my life on a daily basis and the things I want to someday achieve.

    So ya hopefully that gives you some idea of the things to talk about over the phone.

    Cheers

  9. #9
    Killasasparilla
    Bronze Member Killasasparilla's Avatar
    Join Date
    Nov 2007
    Location
    Account Killer
    Posts
    242
    I've found that when talking goes dull, texting is a great alternative.

  10. #10
    someguy88
    Platinum Member
    Join Date
    Sep 2007
    Age
    37
    Posts
    963
    Gender
    Male
    Quote Originally Posted by Daligal83 [Register to see the link]
    When my boyfriend and I first started dating, we'd play the question game. It was great because it let us get to know each other in a new way (we had been friends for over 3 years before we started dating) and because we were long distance and wanted to talk on the phone everyday. So you just take turns asking questions, but you have to answer the question that you ask. They can be silly, thoughtful, deep...anything you want. It's just a fun way to get the conversation going.
    I love the random questions game! It is a fun way to get the conversation going. I've learned more about my friends and SO's playing the questions game than I can even begin to explain.

  11.  

Page 1 of 2 12 LastLast
Top Threads
Starting business with gf
Hi there - my gf told me she always wanted to open a book store. One night I told her that she would be really good at it. The next day she sent me a
My boyfriend wants me to move in with him. HELP!
Hi. I'm 22 years old, and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for a year now and during this past year we have been through a lot of struggles
A Strange Situation
Okay so, I need some advice with my new boyfriend. I'm 27 and he's 29, we've been together for about 4 months. For a bit of background, I got out of
Will my ex ever talk to me again after my behavior?
This is kind of a long story that took place over multiple years. I'll just layout all the details first, before getting into what I did. I dated
My GF became defenseive when I asked who sent her roses on her Birthday....
I have had a bit of a rocky relationship with this girl and we're giving it a second attempt after she broke off the relationship about four years
Am I being selfish or unreasonable?
Hi everyone, Sorry for my first post to be one of all doom and gloom, but I'm stuck and don't know what to do. I want to start by saying that I
My straight fiancé on Craigslist M4M site
Two weeks ago, I was in my fiancé's email to print something and just decided to look around. I noticed there was a couple of emails In his sent

Expert Advice
Featured Threads
He Left My Clothes in His Yard to Pick Up
Here is a follow to my situation: After I spent four days with this guy I met online, I inadvertently left a few clothes at his place. Almost two
Does he really think I'm trolling him/can't trust me or is just an excuse?
Met a guy last summer. I broke it off with him 3 times in 6 dates, over concern about distance, but kept apologizing. The last break off he said he
My 8 year old won't go to sleep or stay asleep 😣😣
Feel like I am losing my mind. My 8 year old just won't go to bed.. or she at least won't stay in bed. She is still up now at 9.45pm (after being
HSP in LDR, about to move to be with him and get married
Im a Highly Sensitive Person. I get very overwhelmed very easily. If i dont sleep well, if theres too much noise, if there are too many
Am I being selfish or unreasonable?
Hi everyone, Sorry for my first post to be one of all doom and gloom, but I'm stuck and don't know what to do. I want to start by saying that I
Stomach flu fears
I have a huge fear of stomach flu, if i am exposed or know someone has had it a have really bad anxiety and stress over it. Yesterday at 11am at my
Boyfriend Likes Questionable Pictures on Instagram– Should I Be Worried?
Long story short, he's been liking some questionable pictures that this other woman (whom he knows irl) posts. In one of the pictures he liked, she's
Ask For Advice

Tags for this Thread

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •